Working With The Universe Takes Courage!

What if you grew up in a world that had never taught you limitations? What if you were never taught that you had physical limits? What if you were never taught that life is difficult, and that making money is supposed to be hard? Your world would be completely different!

“The Universe and Spirit does not understand limitations... PEOPLE invented limitations!” ~ Jennifer O’Neill

When you are young you believe that anything is possible because you are fresh from the Other Side. You are born knowing the rules of the Universe and the possibilities are endless! Then you get older and all of the sudden people begin to tell you that this is not possible and that is not possible. Your memory of the Other Side begins to fade, and you start learning a new set of rules, Physical Rules. You begin to wonder, “Maybe here on Earth there are different rules?” You start doubting yourself and what you can accomplish. Jealousy sets in and people start desperately wanting what someone else has. You start to believe that there is only so much business to go around and so much money to be made. You start competing against each other, when you should really be improving yourself to see what you can accomplish with the Universe. The people that taught you to believe that you are limited are limited themselves; so that is what they teach, they teach what they know.

Many years ago, I began doing readings, writing and spiritual teaching. As a psychic, I have noticed in recent years that people are unhappier then they have ever before. As a writer and spiritual teacher, I am always looking for ways to help people live happier lives. In the last couple of years I began receiving information from my spirit guides or spiritual teachers on “Soul DNA,” and how to help people understand who they are a little bit better.

When you become an adult, it is very hard to relearn what you used to know to be true, to believe in a new set of rules. You have been taught Physical Rules for so long that you have forgotten about the Universal Laws or rules. Physical Rules are fear based, so people become afraid. They become afraid of doing something different in life, they become afraid of what their friends and family might think, or afraid of what might happen. So they stay at a job they hate, or in a relationship that is not working and it begins to take its toll.

Let’s take your occupation for instance. One of the things that I have noticed over the years is how unhappy that people are in the work place. Unhappiness does not necessarily have to be the fault of the work place or the fault of the people that work there; “career incompatibility” may be to blame.

Since you spend about 40% of your waking time at work, why would you choose your work place so carelessly? Most people choose this way because they base their belief system on Physical Rules. They find it hard to believe that you can actually get paid for something you like to do or that you are interested in, unless you have the very unlikely gift of being a professional athlete or something. They go about finding work the wrong way, by looking in the paper and seeing what is out there and what pays the best. In other words, money first! This is the complete opposite of working with the Universal Laws. When working with the Universal Laws you must follow your passion, your intuition and what it is that you are gifted at.

Many people do not understand the relationship that they have with the Universe, and how it can open up doors for them if they just take a leap of faith… but that takes courage! You need to find courage in yourself to do something different. You need to trust in the Universe and this is not easy in fact, it can be just the opposite, it can be quite terrifying! This is why taking a leap of faith is so hard for people to do. They get so caught up in the fear of things turning out badly for them (or possibly getting worse) that they do not even entertain the idea that things might get a lot better… if they can just find the courage to try something different.

When you do not believe in limiting yourself, you will have a whole different experience. You will find success where people told you it was not possible. When you find your courage, courage to trust the Universe, you will find out that the Universe has a whole different set of rules; to follow your passion and to have the compassion to help others. You will find that there is more abundance then you can imagine, that opportunities are endless! If you do this doors will open where there were walls before, and you will meet people that will help you when things get difficult. There is more success, happiness, and wealth in the Universe than you can possibly imagine! There is plenty to go around; and when you understand this, there will be no jealousy. You will begin to understand that everyone should help each other achieve their dreams to the best of their ability. They will in turn help and support you in your success.

Eventually, I noticed a need to get this information out, so working with my Spirit Guides or Spiritual Teachers, I compiled it into a book titled “Soul DNA.” After writing the book, I decided to test this information myself. I began to see drastic changes in my own life and people began to take notice. Since this book was still in production, I thought, “Let’s take this one step further and teach other people this information, and how to use it in their own lives to see if it would have the same affect on their happiness.” I began teaching this in my readings and lectures, and the results were amazing! People began to email me like crazy, telling me how their lives had changed for the better. Then their friends would take notice and they would call me for a reading or bring me in to do group lectures.

Even when they find their courage, people want to know, "Well how do I know what my gift is?" Just figure out what it is that you most enjoy doing in life. It might be fishing, writing, reading, playing sports, talking with people, teaching, math, shopping, cooking or helping people.

Working at something you enjoy does amazing things to your spirit! The fulfillment is wonderful and the income potential is endless if you are in harmony with your passion and gifts. If you are unhappy in your job or are looking for a job, find your courage and take a leap of faith! 

Relationship Obsession

People are obsessed….they are obsessed with relationships. If they are not obsessed with their own relationship then they are with other people’s relationships. Take Bella and Edward in Twilight for instance, people are obsessed with their relationship and it is not even real! But, it is fun and it is passionate and everything you wish for in a relationship. You can just feel the intensity between the characters illuminating from the movie screen into the theater and it feels wonderful! People love to fall in love, they love how it feels. It has become an obsession, and finding a relationship is the way to get there. Then you leave the movie theater and just like that...you are back in the real world! The real world is different. So many people are unhappy with their current relationships status no matter what it is. Your friends, family, co-workers, they all complain. In my line of work relationships are one of the top subjects that people want to discuss. If they are in a relationship then they want to know when it is going to get better, if they are not in a relationship then they want to know when they will be in one, if they have been in one for a long period of time then they are bored and want to get out of one. They are constantly searching for something better.

Relationships are what make the world go round for most people. Now the problem that many people have is they spend more time trying to get in one, or get out of one, than they do trying to make one work. Why is that? I think that people believe that once a commitment is finally made, then comes the easy part and that could not be further for the truth! It is in the middle when it gets difficult, getting in one or out of one is the easy part. Now staying in one….that is the challenge! It’s like relationship boot camp and they do not show that in Twilight!

Here are simple tips to get you through the boot camp phase. They are very common mistakes that people make:

1) A relationship does not give you permission to finally let yourself go. Ahhh, finally! I can eat what I want when I want! This applies to men and women. When you stop getting your hair done, putting on make up, acquiring a beer belly, buying clothes from this decade, your self esteem begins to wither (this has certainly not been a problem with Bella and Edward). KEEP YOUR APPEARANCE UP!!! Not for your significant other, but for YOU!!! When your appearance begins to slide and you begin to feel like a couch potato, you will feel unattractive and you will think that no one else will find you attractive either! This will definitely take a toll on any relationship!! The crazy thing about this is what is the first thing that many people do when a relationship ends? Two words…make over! They loose weight,  go to the gym, get their hair done, buy new clothes, they try and make themselves feel better about their appearance, as they should. But you should always do this, regardless of your relationship status, it is very important! It is important to your self-confidence and your self-esteem. It is sooooo important to feel good about yourself as much as possible, that is attractive!

2) Loosing yourself in your relationship, not a good idea! (This is definitely a mistake that Bella and Edward make, however people tend to overlook this for some reason. Probably because as vampires you are in limited company, soooo this should not apply to the two of them). Many women tend to do this as opposed to men. You become a wife, girlfriend, mother, homemaker, or whatever and suddenly your world tends to revolve around your man. When will they be home, what are they doing, you wait for them and make sure that you are home when they get there. You stop doing the things that you enjoy doing, stop going out with friends, stop hobbies, etc. Now men on the other hand, usually tend to keep on doing the things that they enjoy. Like going out with friends for beers, hunting, fishing or watching sports, they do not stop doing these things to make sure that they hang out with you all of the time, nor should they. Now don't get me wrong, they should not be doing these things all of the time either, there does need to be a balance. If you loose yourself in your relationship two things will happen, your relationship will become very draining first off, and secondly, would you love for your man to be at home waiting for you every single day? Would you enjoy knowing that he was constantly wondering about what you were doing and that his life revolved completely around you? That is too much pressure for anyone and it is not very attractive to be co-dependant. Now you may think that you are just being a good wife or mother, however, you cannot loose yourself completely to these titles or you loose something more precious…yourself as a person!

3) Nit picking at every little thing. Now men and women are both equally guilty of this and there is usually one in every relationship. (Bella and Edward have not made it this far, as that would not make for a very good movie). This is when you become the mother or father of your significant other, ick! The funny thing is no one ever seems to notice that they do this. Pick up your shoes, shut the door, you shouldn’t eat that, didn’t you do that already, why are you going there, why did you do that? OMG! Really I hear people do this ALL OF THE TIME! Pay more attention to what I like to call the "parent complex" because I promise you this will put a damper on your relationship and most certainly your sex life. Some things you just have to let go, you do not need to give your opinion on every little thing. Especially if it is to tell your partner what a stupid idea something is. For one week pay attention to this behavior and see if you would be nit picking in the same way if you were trying to date the same person. I can guarantee that you wouldn’t. Even if they bug you and you have been together for a long time, people deserve to be treated with respect and nit picking is not respectful.

4) Holding your partner responsible for your happiness. Now this is a tricky one, but it is definitely an important one. How would you like it if your partner’s happiness solely depended on you? If you do feel this way, then you definitely need to reevaluate your relationship because you will never win this battle, ever! If you are feeling unsatisfied or unhappy in life, be careful that you do not automatically blame your partner because this is very common. Your partner feels like a safe place to release stress, so people do it all of the time. You come home after having a bad day and yell, or you are just cranky and you feel like you have a right to feel this way, and you do. Just do not take it out on your partner, because that is not fair. People need to take more responsibility for their own happiness, because it is a choice. You are responsible for your own happiness, period!

5) Holding on to the past! Many, many times couples have fought through some very turbulent times in their relationship and have stayed together. This is actually more common then you might realize. A lot of the time you learn from those events, you can grow closer and have a very successful relationship. However, some of the time you might think that you can move forward after a rough patch and things from the past continue to creep to the surface, and as a result, you are miserable! If you have weathered a storm and have choosen to move forward in your relationship and rebuild, it is important to get everything off of your chest, then wipe the slate clean and start over. Imagine demolishing a house that has been through a hurricane, clearing the debris from the land, and then rebuilding it from the foundation up. It is now a brand new house. It might help if you think of your relationship in the same manner and start over, rebuilding as new, from the foundation up. If you cannot wipe the slate clean, however, and the past is always an issue, then your chances are not good at staying together. You can fight the same fight over and over again, it simply will not change the past, but it will certainly define your future.

Make your current relationship your obsession, the longevity of it, not the newness of it. Respect your partner and respect yourself, hold yourself in a high regard, it is the best way to tend to your relationship. Do not put yourself consistently on the back burner to kids, the house or your partner. Not having enough time is not an excuse, because if you do not tend to your relationship, it will become someone else’s obsession.

Do You Care What Other People Think Of You?

If you do then it may be causing you more trouble then you realize! Really I mean this from the bottom of my heart! Way too much self-esteem and happiness is determined by what people think of you or of others. It all seems to be tied together. Would you like everyone to like you? Most people say, “Yeah!” Well good luck with that because let's face it, no matter how likable you are, getting everyone to like you is next to impossible. You never want this to be a determining factor of how that you feel about yourself. Why? They may like you today, you may tick them off tomorrow and many times you don’t even know what you did, but hormones or hunger could certainly be involved. Because people change their minds like they change their underwear and here is what I mean.

Have you ever really thought about how people form their opinions? You need to look at it this way:

1) People tend to form strong opinions but on their mood at the time. If they are happy their opinion is more positive. If they are unhappy their opinion is more on the negative side.

Just think about it. You will almost never hear someone who is in a great mood talk negatively about other people. However, if someone is in a bad mood, look out!!! They could find something wrong with Mother Teresa if they wanted to. They will lash out at anybody or anything without being provoked and many times they will!

2) People’s mood is usually depicted from the way their day went and there are way too many factors that determine someone’s day. For instance perception, eating, weather, stress, hormones, money, these all have an impact on your day.

This is pretty self explanatory, just look at your day today. What factor’s have had an impact on the mood that you are in right now?

3) Now do you really want how someone else’s day went spill over into your world? Or have ANY kind of impact on your life? “Um….I don’t know about you, but for me that would be a big fat NO!”

People are way to wishy washy with their opinions about other people and many times the people who feel the need to make it known what they think about you in the first place, are usually people who are not exactly in a position to be throwing stones.

We all have faults and flaws, that is just life! No one is superior and no one is immune to making bad choices. But that is how you learn and grow, that is what life is about. 

So the next time that you hear what someone says about you, don’t take it so personally. Change your view and instead of taking it to heart and letting it spill into your world, it should give you a little bit of insight into their world and you can think to yourself, “Well I know how your day is going!”

Law Of Attraction - Simplified!

People are using the law of attraction all of the time through out the day and do not even realize it. They think that it needs to be such a concentrated effort, yet everyone does it everyday just like we eat, breathe and walk. Your mind and body are involved with the "Law of Attraction" on an every day basis, without being told.

This is how people think that it needs to be done. You must find a comfortable place, keep the kids quite and have some alone time creating your future. You sit in the room struggling to form a picture in your mind, get frustrated, try a few more times, mind starts wondering to the laundry and what you are making for dinner. Wow - that was a chore! Try it again later in the week. More laundry and grocery shopping, this is a waste of time, forget about it, and go back to real life.

What you need to pay attention to is what are you thinking about while you are driving in the car, waiting for a doctor appointment, lying in bed trying to fall asleep. When you were a kid you would think about the new bike you wanted, where you would like to live when you grow up. Daydreaming about fun things, because you did not have any responsibilities that would side track your mind. Find the inner child in you - when you are driving to work or to pick up the kids, use this time more wisely. Do not spend this "zone out" time worrying about bills, or the car, or how bad you do not want to go to the grocery store. Then get frustrated when you get an unexpected bill because the car gets a flat tire, and the grocery clerk was rude!

Here is a simplified plan:

1) Realize that you have a lot of "zone out" time through out the day. Driving is a huge one, falling asleep, waiting for people or appointments.

2) Use this "zone out" time and replace it with "daydreaming". This has a nice feel to it when ever anyone thinks about daydreaming it is a fun thing.

3) Daydreaming should consist of how you would love your life to be and what it would feel like to be living that life. Like being at a job you love, living in a different area of the city or country, getting a new car, going on a vacation. It can be anything that makes you feel GOOD!

4) The key to great daydreaming is we allow ourselves to get lost in the feeling of being at a certain place in our life, or the excitement of purchasing something we only "dream" about. This feeling is a big trigger for the "Law of Attraction", in the same way that panic is because we consistently feel like we do not make enough money to cover the bills. I do not know about you but I am willing to gamble on the trip, simple because if that happens - I know that I had enough money to cover the bills!

5) If you do have worries come into your mind at this time, replace the worry with a scenario in your head of how you want it to be resolved. Only solutions are allowed in your "zone out" time.

 6) Also very important, recognize and acknowledge what you have created in the past and in the future. If you need new tires and immediately catch yourself worrying that it is going to be way more than you can afford, shift your focus to daydreaming that you get to the tire store and there is a sale on affordable tires. 

Remember this is daydream time, so do not question if this is going to work, just lose yourself stress relief and the great feeling of the daydreaming itself. If the next thing you know you are at the store staring at the affordable tires - take a moment to acknowledge what a good job you did. This gives you more and more control over the "Law of Attraction" in your life each time you just take a small moment to be proud of how you solved a problem.

People spend way too much precious daydreaming time wasted on everyday issues that get handled whether you think about it while driving or not. Let's face it dinner will still get made, laundry will still get done, and the car will still get fixed. So, if you replace this time with daydreaming, you will be a much happier person, you will notice that your mood will be lighter and you will begin to attract more positive things into your life. Moods are contagious, so your family and co-workers will thank you for this. Life will feel easier, because I am sure that in your daydreaming time life is more enjoyable, every day is not such a chore. Also, problems that do arise will be solved much quicker and will not feel as hard to conquer.

Most people have at least 5 times through out the day that they have wasted daydreaming time. We can learn something from all of those smiling kids that want to know, "Why can't I go to space? They have the space shuttle don't they?" If you think about it, someone has to go to space, purchase the vacation, or buy a new car, why not you? What do you have to lose! I have always loved the saying, "If I am going to be thinking anyway, I might as well think big!"

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It’s Valentines Day….So What!

Ahhhhh Valentines Day! The day that everyone is supposed to express their everlasting love to each other and make the other one feel special. You are supposed to get dressed up, go out to dinner and have a romantic night. In some instances there are gifts involved, and many times flowers or chocolates. Has is really come to this? Do we really need to regulate a day to make sure that this gets done at least once a year? ONE DAY out of three hundred and sixty five days a year????

I for one believe that it should just be a rule in general if you are going to be in any long term or lasting relationship. You should be expressing your love and gratitude to one another, you should have many romantic nights and going out to dinner and enjoying each other’s company should definitely be a regular occurrence. (You can also have dinner at home which can also romantic, as long as you don’t have to cook….which is nearly impossible and that is why I suggest having dinner out).

For many, many years now my husband and I do the traditional Valentines Day thing. He usually buys me flowers; we get dressed up and go out to dinner at a nice restaurant. Then sometimes we will go to a movie, (because I love going to movies) and then we come home. A few years ago, I thought, Valentines Day doesn’t feel the same as it used to when we were first married. Then I realized, it is because we do this often! We hold hands all of the time, we have romantic dinners and go to movies. We often express our love and gratitude to each other. In fact, I think we stand out like a freak of nature because people often mention to us that they can’t believe that we have been married for so long, and even weirder….that we still like each other. We are good friends; we enjoy each others company and we laugh a lot.

Now many of you have kids, laundry, dishes, bills and work (we do too). These things do take up the majority of your time….and cash. But, I am not suggesting that you do any or all of these things everyday, because let’s face it, that is not going to happen. Also, it is impossible to “like” someone that you live with every single day of your life! However, most people who have been in a relationship for a while could probably up their romance meter a bit.

I feel that everyone needs to spread “Valentines Day” around a bit. Have more fun and make a regular day special every now and again. Laugh more and remember why you “like” your partner. Valentines Day should be sprinkled everywhere in your relationship. It most definitely shouldn’t be confined to just ONE day. 

Do you REALLY know who your significant other is???

“Um…Ya!” Most people are thinking, and a few others are probably thinking, “Well…I thought so until now. Thanks!” Now don’t start going through pants pockets and checking cell phone records, I don’t exactly mean this the way it sounds. Here is what I mean.

I deal A LOT with relationships and relationship questions in my line of work. It is one of the top three most popular subjects. Yet I am amazed most of the time of a reoccurring problem. People fighting about the same thing over and over and OVER again!!! Usually it stems from the same problem. You would like to think that your significant other is this person that you have conjured up in your head so you get really ticked off when they act differently.

Let me give you an example. I know someone that has a boyfriend who is a slime ball when it comes to women. He stares at them constantly whether she is in his presence or not. This has been going on from the day that they met, until now, years later. He has not, and will not, ever change. As this relationship has progressed somehow in her head she has started to believe that he is different then who he really is. She sees him for who she wants him to be. So when they fight what do you think their #1 fight is about? Staring at other women. Hmmmm……imagine that!

Now I have a very different take on this. He did not hide this in the beginning and he does not hide it now. He is the same slime ball now as he was when they first met. So what has changed? On his part, nothing, on her part, her perception. She wants him to be different, so that is how she views him in her head. So she continues to argue her point on why he should not do this particular thing. On the flip side, if she just understood and accepted that this is a part of his personality and make her decision to be with him, or not be with him, accordingly, there would be a lot less fighting. In other words, if you are choosing to stay with someone despite their flaws, stop making a big deal out of it every single time that this particular flaw comes out!! If it is too overwhelming and you can’t take it, then leave! You will most likely, contrary to popular belief, find someone else to be in a relationship with and not grow old alone. If you choose to stay in your relationship (key word here is CHOOSE), then get over it! Find a way to make peace with it. See your partner for who they really are and stay or don’t stay based on that image. Do not make up an image in your head of who you would like them to be then punish them when they don’t measure up, that is just silly! It makes no sense whatsoever! More often then your partner has some very good qualities that are being greatly overshadowed by the bad. For instance that same boyfriend has never had an affair, he is a good provider, a good father, etc. But she cannot seem to make peace with this particular issue and it is causing their relationship to be in great turmoil most of the time. Ahhhh….just what every person hopes for!

Now I am definitely not saying that he is in the right (I would have left a loooooong time ago).  But this obviously wasn’t a complete “deal breaker” for her, so she has stuck around. Now everyone’s situation is different and what I would like you to understand is the power that you hold over the “peace level” in your relationship.

The major point here is you have a choice, a choice to stay in a relationship or a choice not to. Regardless of if your significant other is a complete and total jerk in all aspects, mostly good, or mostly bad, if you are choosing to stay make it as stress free on yourself as possible. In fact try and make it down right enjoyable! The most amazing feeling in the world is to be completely and totally loved for who you are flaws and all! I know that you wish this for yourself, why would anyone (including your partner) want anything different?

 So take a minute, and really SEE your significant other for who they are. If you decide to stay, which most of you will, replace your old image with this new one. Then make your peace with it….

Does The Universe Really Work In Mysterious Ways?

Does the Universe really work in mysterious ways or is it just mysterious to think that we have a lot more control over the outcome of our lives then we have been taught to believe? Is it mysterious to see that things are really supposed to be synchronistic and that things are really supposed to fall into place just right, that you are supposed to be at the right place at the right time. This is how you roll when you are working with the Universe. When you are more in touch with your intuition, when you begin to trust and believe that life is supposed to be mostly fun and good, it seems mysterious! Wow! That is almost too good to be true! Why is that???

The world is full of negativity you are surrounded by it every single day. It is on the news, you are surrounded by it at work, your friends and family talk about how crappy everything is. The economy is bad, money is tight, relationships are not lasting, and stress is high!

Where are all of the positive people? Well, I have noticed that there seems to be 2 distinct groups of people. They are Group 1) Things Suck and Group 2) Life Is Good. The thing is that Group 1 tends to out number Group 2 by like 10 to 1. So you run into a lot more of these people. Now Group 2 is around but they tend to keep a low profile. They are your friends/family/coworkers that are doing well, getting great opportunities, but you can’t figure out how, since your lives are basically similar to one another and none of this is good stuff is happening to you. They secretly love life! They believe that live is supposed to be mostly good and that things will always work themselves out one-way or another. They believe that anything is possible and they are filled with hope.

Those people are naïve; they have their head buried in the sand! If that is what you are thinking, hmmmm….Group 1 you are! The reason that they keep a low profile is to keep their mysterious ways flowing in a positive direction. You see when you expose yourself in anyway to people in Group 1 it can bring your spirits down, you end up having to defend yourself or fight for the positive and lets face it, you can not change Group 1 and their mindset, plus it is just plain exhausting. Their thinking is also very contagious and people in Group 2 know this, so they do not to expose themselves so as not to be infected by other peoples negative thinking! People in Group 1 are also quite passionate about their Group and they will spend many precious hours defending it!!  So people in Group 2 just go about their business enjoying everyday to the best of their ability, planning and plotting their amazing future, secretly.

People in Group 1 make a lot more noise; they gather up their numbers and have big discussions on how miserable everything is! They are easy to spot and they are pretty much everywhere. With people in Group 2 it is more of a “knowing”, you can sense when other like-minded people are around. Their energy is different and they just seem….happier!

Now the wonderful thing is that you can switch Groups at anytime and it is free to do so, there is no initiation and no penalties. So the next time that you find yourself smiling because the Universe touched your life in a mysterious way, keep an open mind, you may want to explore the possibility of switching over to Group 2.

The grass is greener and things are lighter. You will run into problems just like everyone else, but your trust will continue to grow each time that something works out, because it usually will. When that happens you spend your days worrying less and taking full advantage of having a lot more fun, because you begin to truly believe Group 2’s motto, “Life is Good!”