4 Biggest Mistakes People Make When Trying To Find Happiness...

I notice when people are trying to find happiness, there are a few things that hang them up. They also tend to be the same things, so I wanted to make a blog post that addresses these exact issues.

So here are the 4 biggest mistakes that people make when trying to find happiness:

Mistake #1

Your Happiness Is Attached To Your Relationship Status.

This is a huge one. If you are unhappy right now, and say that you don't do this....well, I don't believe you! 

If You Are In A Relationship

If you are in a relationship and your partner seems to have a HUGE impact on your day-to-day happiness. (Now I do not expect you to know this, but your friends will). So if your friends say that your relationship has huge impact on your happiness, this is strike number one. Now lets face it, there will be days that you fight or whatever, and it affects your happiness, and that is normal. But if you do not have anything else going on in your life that is good for you, your primary focus will be your relationship and what your partner is doing, or is not doing, or is doing now…you get the drift! Every move they make will give you a mood swing.

If You Are Not In A Relationship

If you are not in a relationship and you seem to only be happy when you are in one….big problem! This is strike number one for singles. Yes it is normal to be lonely, yes it is normal to want a companion, but it is not normal (it is absurd how many people think this is normal so I choose to use a different word) "healthy" to feel happy only when you are in a relationship. In fact if this is the case with you, you have got bigger problems then you realize! This means you do not yet grasp the concept that no one holds that much power over you, and your perception is in some dire need of adjustment..

Mistake #2

You Have Contingency Clauses Attached

To Your Happiness!

Ok here is where I am going to give you a free pass, because most people do not know that they are doing this, unless it is brought to their attention. However, from this day forward, understand since this has now been brought to your attention, you may no longer use this as an excuse! What contingency clauses have you unknowingly put on your happiness?

Here are some examples: When I get out of this hell hole, I will be happy. When I get a better job, I will be happy. When I can retire, I will be happy. When I can purchase XYZ, I will be happy!

I hate to break the news to you, but as humans, we are a fickle people. So when one thing on your “I will be happy when list” gets crossed off, another list item will take it’s place! If this is your angle, good luck, you will be happy….probably never! 

Mistake #3

You Are Not Pursuing At Least One Of Your Dreams.

This is important, so listen up! When you are pursuing one of your dreams, it will resonate with you on a soul level. When this happens you will begin to offer a different vibration energetically out into the Universe. Why does that matter? Because that is when you begin to work with the Laws of Attraction, and things will begin to fall into place. Life gets easier, opportunities will begin to present themselves to you, it is amazing! Plus, let’s face it, it's just fun! Please don’t make excuses that you do not have time to do this, it has been reported that people spend an average of 8 hours a month on facebook, use that time! If you are not pursuing at least one of your dreams, consider this strike number two, (as you got a free pass for the last one).

Mistake #4

You Are Constantly Looking For Happiness In The Future & Forget To Experience It Today!

When you are looking for happiness to come in the future, this usually means that your happiness is now being defined by bigger and better things. In other words, you have become “desensitized” to the little joys in life. Things like birthday parties, having lunch with a friend, enjoying the weather, laughing, etc. When you are constantly looking towards the future to find happiness, that is where your focus lies, your thoughts become occupied by what lies ahead. That makes the “now” seem less significant somehow. If you do this, it is strike number three.

Now it does not matter how many strikes that you have against you, you can change your perception starting in the “now” or today! I have made a happiness mantra that I want you to copy/paste, print out and hang it up somewhere in which you will see it every day.

4 Signs That I Truly Understand Happiness:

1) My happiness is no longer attached to my relationship status.

2) I have removed all contingency clauses previously attached to my happiness.

3) I am pursuing at least one of my dreams.

4) I have stopped looking for my happiness in the future, and I have learned how to experience it in the present.

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