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Change Requires Action...

2012-03-03T14:46:00.000-10:00

“Things will never change if you never plan on changing them.

Change requires a action, action requires a plan,

plan requires thought, and thought changes everything….”

Many times people have things in their life that they would like to change, yet instead of acknowledging what these things are and fixing them, they silently stew. This stewing is in the back of their head most of the time, on a subconscious level and stewing builds aggravation.

Changing little things in your life seems so easy, so why do you not do it? Well, because deep down you know the truth, and the truth is that it is not easy at all and, in fact, it takes a bit of work.

1) You must first acknowledge that change is needed.

In order to acknowledge that change is needed, you must take responsibility. That alone can make you cringe, for most people this is very hard to do.

2) Then, there is problem solving.

Here is what I am sure many of you are thinking, "What! I do enough problem solving! My kids, my boss, I am tired of problem solving! I want to watch TV!"

3) Last but not least, you need to believe that your life is worth the work!

This is where it can get tricky. It is funny how much time and energy you can put into helping other people solve their problems, but when it comes to your own life, settling is just easier sometimes, then initiating change. Change is not easy, but it is rewarding, and you have to want change more than you want to settle!

So here is a simple way to implement change:

1) Make A List: Make a list of 5 things that you would like changed in your life. Your job, money situation, car, wardrobe, computer, shoes, weigh issue, hair, etc.

2) Write On Paper: Take five sheets of paper and at the top of each page write something different that you would like to change.

3) Address Each Piece of Paper (Or each issue): Under each heading you are going to give some thought to what it is that would help you resolve the issue, or change it for the better. For instance say your weight is page one, something that might make you feel better is losing 25lbs., maybe just looking physically fit, or more tone. If your wardrobe is page two and something you would like to see changed, something that might make you feel better is having updated clothes, clothes that fit, or clothes that flatter your figure. If you do not like your job is page three, what is it that you want? Do you want more flexibility, more money, a vacation, health insurance, a job closer to home? Be specific. You get the idea.

4) Make A Game Plan: Make a game plane to clear out the past and bring in the new, gym membership, buying healthier food, running, etcetera. Acknowledge that change does not come about unless initiated! If you are the one wanting change, and stewing, then you are the one that is going to need to be proactive. You can sit on the couch all you want and visualize losing weight, finding your soul mate, or working somewhere you love, but I guarantee that it will be coupled with the feeling of aggravation, and that is self sabotage at its best! When you have a game plan and you begin to move towards being proactive, you begin to feel an energetic shift. This energetic shift is of great importance; your intent shifts your energy and what you are projecting about your situation into the Universe. This little shift is a major component to bringing about what you want into your life.

5) Problem Solve: Treat each item on your list as if your boss has given you a task to complete and the task is to resolve each problem to the best of your ability. People can problem solve easier if they are asked to do it by someone else, for someone else's benefit. Write down steps you should take to get the result you want, as if you have to show your "game plane" to another person. Or even better, do this with a friend and do show it to another person!

7) Execute! Implement change and note your progress. This is important! Because many times people will do several things to initiate change and only remember a handful of them. If you note all of the things that you do, it is like giving your self a pat on the back upon your review. Review your progress at the end of the month!

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4 Biggest Mistakes People Make When Trying To Find Happiness...

2012-02-01T11:32:00.001-10:00

I notice when people are trying to find happiness, there are a few things that hang them up. They also tend to be the same things, so I wanted to make a blog post that addresses these exact issues.

So here are the 4 biggest mistakes that people make when trying to find happiness:

Mistake #1

Your Happiness Is Attached To Your Relationship Status.

This is a huge one. If you are unhappy right now, and say that you don't do this....well, I don't believe you!

If You Are In A Relationship

If you are in a relationship and your partner seems to have a HUGE impact on your day-to-day happiness. (Now I do not expect you to know this, but your friends will). So if your friends say that your relationship has huge impact on your happiness, this is strike number one. Now lets face it, there will be days that you fight or whatever, and it affects your happiness, and that is normal. But if you do not have anything else going on in your life that is good for you, your primary focus will be your relationship and what your partner is doing, or is not doing, or is doing now…you get the drift! Every move they make will give you a mood swing.

If You Are Not In A Relationship

If you are not in a relationship and you seem to only be happy when you are in one….big problem! This is strike number one for singles. Yes it is normal to be lonely, yes it is normal to want a companion, but it is not ~~normal~~ (it is absurd how many people think this is normal so I choose to use a different word) "healthy" to feel happy only when you are in a relationship. In fact if this is the case with you, you have got bigger problems then you realize! This means you do not yet grasp the concept that no one holds that much power over you, and your perception is in some dire need of adjustment..

Mistake #2

You Have Contingency Clauses Attached

To Your Happiness!

Ok here is where I am going to give you a free pass, because most people do not know that they are doing this, unless it is brought to their attention. However, from this day forward, understand since this has now been brought to your attention, you may no longer use this as an excuse! What contingency clauses have you unknowingly put on your happiness?

Here are some examples: When I get out of this hell hole, I will be happy. When I get a better job, I will be happy. When I can retire, I will be happy. When I can purchase XYZ, I will be happy!

I hate to break the news to you, but as humans, we are a fickle people. So when one thing on your “I will be happy when list” gets crossed off, another list item will take it’s place! If this is your angle, good luck, you will be happy….probably never!

Mistake #3

You Are Not Pursuing At Least One Of Your Dreams.

This is important, so listen up! When you are pursuing one of your dreams, it will resonate with you on a soul level. When this happens you will begin to offer a different vibration energetically out into the Universe. Why does that matter? Because that is when you begin to work with the Laws of Attraction, and things will begin to fall into place. Life gets easier, opportunities will begin to present themselves to you, it is amazing! Plus, let’s face it, it's just fun! Please don’t make excuses that you do not have time to do this, it has been reported that people spend an average of 8 hours a month on facebook, use that time! If you are not pursuing at least one of your dreams, consider this strike number two, (as you got a free pass for the last one).

Mistake #4

You Are Constantly Looking For Happiness In The Future & Forget To Experience It Today!

When you are looking for happiness to come in the future, this usually means that your happiness is now being defined by bigger and better things. In other words, you have become “desensitized” to the little joys in life. Things like birthday parties, having lunch with a friend, enjoying the weather, laughing, etc. When you are constantly looking towards the future to find happiness, that is where your focus lies, your thoughts become occupied by what lies ahead. That makes the “now” seem less significant somehow. If you do this, it is strike number three.

Now it does not matter how many strikes that you have against you, you can change your perception starting in the “now” or today! I have made a happiness mantra that I want you to copy/paste, print out and hang it up somewhere in which you will see it every day.

4 Signs That I Truly Understand Happiness:

1) My happiness is no longer attached to my relationship status.

2) I have removed all contingency clauses previously attached to my happiness.

3) I am pursuing at least one of my dreams.

4) I have stopped looking for my happiness in the future, and I have learned how to experience it in the present.

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Self Discovery & My Ebook Adventure!

2012-01-24T15:24:00.001-10:00

I do a lot of writing and I teach people how to follow their dreams, and recently I have been watching my own dream unfold right before my eyes. (Yes, I have dreams too!) It all started when I read the Four Hour Work Week by Timothy Ferris, which I highly recommend, it really got me thinking. What is it that I want in life, what are my dreams? I have always been an entrepreneur at heart, so over the years I have dabbled in many things here and there, but nothing really hit home with me...until now, I started writing an Ebook! I LOVE IT! I loved it so much that I became confused. You see, up until this point I thought I had been pursuing my dream for awhile now, I am psychic. As a psychic, I am an author, I do readings, I lecture and I teach classes. Not only do I do it, but I am very, very good at it! How do I know? Well because people tell me all of the time. I get emails on how much I have helped people, they tell me how grateful that they are, my accuracy rate is high! I also know this is one of the reasons that I am here on this earth, for spiritual guidance and to help people. But I have decided that something that you are gifted at, and what you dream about doing, can also be very different things.

I have always dreamed of becoming an author of not one, but several books, since I was little. I have also dreamed of having some passive income in my life. When I wrote my first book Soul DNA it cost me a lot of money, there are set up fees and print fees, I have not recouped the fees back yet. Although it was a huge hit with my clients, it did not fulfill my dream. The publishing world did not seem for me. It took a really long time, it was hard to get into book stores, publishers do not like anybody unless you are already famous. Jeez, it felt like way too much of a chore, until now. I discovered Ebooks! I love them, I love everything about them. I love how much control you have over your designs, I love how they are instantaneous, I love how you can get them for .99 and the authors are still benefiting from their hard work. They are amazing!

So I read, I read everything I could get my hands on about Ebooks, cover designers, formatting and marketing (I even loved reading about Ebooks!) The hardest thing for me was to find a good Ebook cover designer for a reasonable price, because this too can cost you a pretty penny. That's when I discovered Streetlight Graphics! They will do a cover design and the formatting for you at a great price, so I hired them right away. They got to work on my the cover of my first Ebook "Inspirational Quotes" by Jennifer O’Neill. We tossed around a few ideas when it finally hit my inbox…my new cover! It was like the clouds parted and I could hear the Angels singing! I loved it! I loved everything about it! The funny thing is I didn’t even care if anyone else liked it! That was new to me, because I am in the business of helping to keep people happy, but this was different, this was for me. That’s when I had a self discovery, this Ebook venture is all for me! From the cover to the inside of my new book, it was reflecting my creative side. A side of me that was creating a book for fun, not in hopes of pleasing people and helping them, however, if I did both in the process, double bonus. I was happy with it, my creative side was blossoming as it felt nurtured. I sent my new book out to some friends and they loved it as much as I did! Double bonus! I fulfilled my dream and creative side while helping others.

I have had so much fun with this new ebook adventure that I have already finished my second one, (the first one is being formatted and it will be on sale soon). The second one is in the editing stages and cover design. Then it's on to book 3, 4 & 5! I expect to have the first four completed by the end of February.

There is still the little dream about adding some passive income into my life, well...it is possible that i could even happen with my new Ebook adventure, I will keep you posted.

Wow I didn't even know I had it in me!

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Appreciate

2012-01-19T13:04:00.000-10:00

‎"Do you see the people in your life for

who they really are, or do you see them how you

want them to be? Never keep someone in your life

because you are expecting them to change, keep

them in your life because you appreciate them

regardless of change!" ~ Jennifer O'Neill

Inspirational Quotes by Jennifer O'Neill

Coming February 2012....

Predictions For 2012

2012-01-12T09:56:00.007-10:00

A Republican will win the presidential election.

There will be a large earthquake off of South America, near Peru or Chile.

There will be flooding Philippines, Taiwan will more lives lost.

There will be talks about sending military back to the Middle East fall/end of year.

Gold will continue to go up, good investment. Silver is also good.

Euro is in some trouble, will drop.

Europe’s economy will worsen, with the exception of London and 2012 Olympics.

There will be talk of restructuring Europe’s economy/banking system.

There will be a bomb that blows up on a train in Europe, they will claim that it is terrorists but they will find out that it is a local group rebelling.

There will be two more groups similar to Occupy Wall Street that will develop in US.

More groups will begin to rise up and picket/take a stand against the government, people will become more restless of how the government is funding corporations and the banking industry.

Stocks will continue to fluctuate.

There will be “reports” that the Unemployment rate is going down, but people still struggling and out of work.

Oil will be an issue again, up and down prices, a lot of worry about gas shortage, etc.

Weather will continue to be unstable, earthquakes, tsunamis, etc.

There will be a lot of solar flares, this will affect cell phones, satellites, etc. Solar flares will become more common.

Good year for science discovery’s genetics, quantum physics, technology, etc.

There will be a lot more UFO sightings in 2012, not in the media so much as reported sightings.

The World will not end 2012, end of the Mayan Calendar. The Mayan Calendar runs in eras, and it’s the end of an era.

Despite reports Brad and Angelina will not break up.

Kim Kardashians wedding was real, just a bad idea. She had second thoughts but did not want to back out because of the deals made to film, etc.

Oprah Windfrey will not stay out of the spotlight for long. She will become the next Barbara Walters interviewing very exclusive guests.

The Palace will announce that Kate Middleton is pregnant in 2012

These are predictions by "Hawaii Psychic" Jennifer O'Neill you can join her on Facebook or Twitter. If you would like to have your own predictions for 2012 you can go to www.hawaiihealings.com. Or you can listen to here on "Hawaii Psychic" Radio.

Inspirational Quote for the Week!

2012-01-04T15:00:00.001-10:00

"When you focus on managing the turmoil on the inside…it will naturally resolve the turmoil on the outside….not the other way around!" ~ Jennifer O'Neill, author of Soul DNA

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Aliens vs. Spirit Guides!

2012-01-03T15:19:00.000-10:00

Hope you all are ringing in the NEW YEAR with a ton of fun and are super excited about what 2012 will bring! That being said, instead of writing an article this week I am a little busy doing some other things...

First off I am doing a class that teaches and helps you to develop communication between you and your Spirit Guides and Angels. This is a much asked about class and it is going to be really fun!

Secondly I have been asked a lot about the subject of Aliens & UFO's recently and I find the questions not coincidental at all, in fact, it represents everyone's awareness of the current and changing times (spiritually & energetically). You will be seeing more sightings all over the world in 2012 and I have quite a bit of information on this subject and I am going to talk more about it today. Call in with questions or call in and tell us about experiences that you have had! This is going to be a really fun show!

Spirit Guides, Angels & Animal Totems

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Change Your Life....Move To Hawaii!

2011-12-30T14:08:00.000-10:00

I get asked a lot, "How did you end up in Hawaii?"

Then the conversation goes like this.

Me, "We sold everything we owned and we moved here!"

Other person, "Wow, I could never do that! But I sure would like to!"

"Why?"

"Why what?"

"Why couldn't you do that?"

Puzzled, "Because I have a mortgage, a job, family, etc, etc, etc..."

Hmmmm...well I guess you can always come up with a hundred excuses why not to do something, in fact, people think of excuses all the time! Why they can't move, change jobs, travel or just relax. I swear people's motto is "I can't because..." Let's be honest you only make excuses to justify staying where your at or in a situation that you hate. You do it so that you can feel better about not going after your dream. You do it because if you don't everyone around you will tell you what a bad idea it is!!!! That's right, they will, and they did it to us too! If you are wondering, here is how we did it.

We decided that we needed to make a change. We had 2 houses, one with seven acres and a construction company. The economy started to get worse and my husband began to have heart pains. Heart attacks happen when you are living a life that you don't enjoy or you are stressed out all the time. It is quite common. So my husband asked how about Hawaii? We booked him a ticket and he left a week later to see if we should move there. He made an appointment with a Realtor and looked at housing and neighborhoods. He also checked out the job situation and talked with the local people he met. He came home and said let's move!

We started filtering through all of our things and had an auction, it was amazing to me how little you get for material items after paying so much for them in the first place, that's when my whole view on material things changed! We also had soooo much stuff! Things we never used or forgot about. We put both houses on the market and got the kids stuff in order for a new school, shot records, etc.

Then we told family and friends! Oh jeez, they thought we had lost it! It's way too expensive there, what about jobs, what about us????? Everyone was convinced that groceries were higher, gas was higher, housing was higher and they had state income tax! I was surprised at the things they thought of, I was surprised at the fear! But we went anyway and we were gone within two months. We had no furniture, no jobs, but we where in Hawaii!

Within three months we found jobs, we found furniture and we made more money then before. Housing is higher, gas is higher, food is about the same but clothes and car insurance is way cheaper. The pay is higher and health insurance are required by law. All and all we are financially better off and my husbands cholesterol went from 300 to under 200!

There is a down side you are a 6 hour plane ride away from the mainland, no more road trips! Family is far away, so it is expensive to fly back. In fact moving to Hawaii definitely isn't for everyone, it takes some serious adjustment.

What I mean by "Change You Life...Move To Hawaii" is stop being afraid to make a big change! Stop letting material things tie you down, financially or geographically. It is the most incredibly feeling after so many years of having multiple houses, cars and things to just free yourself so that you can go anywhere or do anything you want. I will never collect that much stuff again, I love the freedom. The crazy thing is after you move 5,000 miles away to an island you really conquer your fear! For the first couple of months I was like, "What did we do?!?!" But you get over that then you feel like, "I can do anything, move anywhere...I am adaptable!"

These experiences make you spiritually rich. Follow your heart...follow your dream, it is possible! I have met many people in Hawaii that got here the same way we did, and they have never regretted it. Some still live here, some have moved on. You never hear older people say, I wish I would have accumulated more stuff! They do however wish that they would have experienced more things in life....

Check out my new website Change You Life...specializing in spiritual mp3's (new podcasts monthly)! I highly recommend the Soul DNA Meditation Process.

Negative Thinking Is Contagious!

2011-12-06T10:08:00.000-10:00

That's right! Negative thinking is contagious! People go around worrying about catching the flu, colds or whatever big thing is going around this year, all of the time. They don't want to be temporarily down and out or inconvenienced with being physically "sick", plus, they don't like the way it feels and who can blame them.

Since it worries them so much they take proper precautions and stay away from people that might be "contagious", wash their hands, etc. While they are preoccupied with this, they are letting one of the most dangerous "contagious" things slip right under their radar...Negative Thinking!

What? You might think, "Who cares!" Well you should that's for sure. Did you know that around 70% of the population are pessimistic thinkers, that's just a fancy way of saying, negative thinkers! Did you know that negative thinking has a huge impact on your physically and spiritual health??? Did you also know that is has a HUGE impact on your money flow and your life path? Hmmm.....I bet the money part got your attention! Well it's true and I am tired of it and you should be too! Do you ever notice how you can be in a great mood and then someone else comes along and ruins your day because of their attitude? Then then next thing that you know your are ruining someone else's day? (Well you probably don't notice the last part). Well it happens and it happens a lot! Why should your care? Because all of this negative thinking will have an impact in your life and on your health, that is a fact!

So what should you do about it? Be more aware that negative thinking is contagious. Do not allow yourself to be swayed by others to think everything is going to turn out crappy like they do. What did I do? I created a hat line called Mind Condom™. I did this to take a stand against negative thinking. I did it so that people could remind themselves not to be swayed to the dark side. I did it so that people wearing the hats could take a stand without even having to voice it in the presence of others. The most amazing thing is when people wear these hats there is a different presence about them and people who think negatively tend to stay out of their bubble! Amazing!

If you want to see who is wearing Mind Condoms click HERE!

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Best Kept Secret.....

2011-12-02T10:51:00.000-10:00

For Lowering Your Cholesterol!!

(I wanted to share this with you because it is a video that I did on Hawaii Healings and it has gotten a great response! So enjoy!)

This video is about the best kept secret to lowering your cholesterol, without prescription medication! After a two year struggle of trying to lower my husband's cholesterol we finally found this. I was so grateful that I wanted to share it with anyone else having this same trouble. If you are struggling with high cholesterol or know someone who is you definitely need to watch this and find out how my husband lowered his cholesterol 60+ points in three months, naturally!

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Below here is the exact product that we used. I put this up because we searched for weeks to try and find the right combination and this is what we came up with, so I wanted to make it easy to find. Like I said before this is an affiliated link. You can also get it at GNC if, however, this is a bit cheaper.

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Happiness Vs. Misery

2011-11-28T08:50:00.000-10:00

This video is based on my facebook quote:

"Happiness can be just as contagious as misery...." ~ Jennifer O'Neill

I did this video after someone asked me about a part in my book Soul DNA. They wanted to know what to do if they had immediate family member who where negative, but they did not want to limit their time with them. Great question!!!!!

My book is below if you haven't got your copy yet! Please like and share this video if you like it so we can help others. Also email me if you have more questions at jennifer@jenniferopsychic.com and you may get a video response!

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Spare Time? Your Kidding Me Right?

2011-11-21T10:58:00.000-10:00

This is a debatable topic for many people, especially with all of the mothers out there with very little time to take a shower, let alone have a minute to themselves. But I guess I am going to start another debate here! After 20+ years of working with people I have learned two really important things:

1) People spend way too much time distracting themselves.

2) Time management is harder then it sounds.

Let’s talk about number 1 for a minute. In my experience 87% of people spend most of their spare time all up in somebody else’s business! That’s right, I said it! It could be your boyfriend, girlfriend, brother, friend, or your friend’s, husbands, cousin! It doesn’t matter! A lot of times people spend their spare time talking to friends or family about what other people did or didn’t do. They analyze what the problem is and how they feel about it. Oh man, that alone, discussing your feelings about a particular situation can take up weeks of your time, and in some instances....years! Then, they want to figure out how to fix it or what they should do about it. When the fact of the matter is, they are just feeding more energy into the fire so to speak. I am sure that many of you might be saying, “But I get roped into it!” Well, your not off the hook either, because the way that works on an energetic level is this:

"When energy is sent out or focused in your direction, it can only maintain itself for a very brief time, unless (this is important)……..it is somehow engaged upon."

When and if you talk about it, discuss it, focus upon it or give your opinion about it you are energetically engaging back, and that is like throwing fuel on an energetic fire so to speak. Then, in some instances, you can watch it grow out of control, if you wish. But again, remember:

"Energy that is focused upon you or in your direction has to have some energetic reciprocation or it will just die out."

By all means…LET IT DIE OUT!

Ok now it is on to number 2, this is harder then it sounds. I have a very good exercise for you to do that will help you get a grip on this time management thing. Do this especially if you think that you have this time management thing licked, because you will find this even more interesting. Carry a notepad around with you for a week, doesn’t matter how big. On this notepad write down what you are doing during the day and how long it takes you. For most people, this will shock you! Now make sure that you detail it a bit, I know it sounds funny but it will be helpful. For instances you can put, 6:00am – 7:30am got up, showered and ate breakfast. 7:30am – 8:00am drove to work, 8:30 check emails, etc. I did this for a week and I could not believe a couple of different things. One is I could not believe how sidetracked that I got when checking emails! I would check emails, then it would remind me to do something else, or someone would send me a link and the next thing that I knew, poof! An hour gone! I started paying more attention to my email ADHD after that. Next, I work from home and if you have ever done this then you know that sometimes it is very hard to keep focused. I could not believe how much time I would spend cleaning during the day. I would make lunch and pick up a few things, throw in a load of laundry sweep the floor and there went another hour! So I decided to structure my work more like I was in school. I set up times for breaks, lunch and cleaning! That helped a lot.

The other thing that can be very distracting is tv, facebook and the computer. I used to have my tv on in the background all of the time just for noise. I began to shut that off to test the effectiveness, it was wonderful. At first it was too quiet, but then I noticed that I got way more done, simply because I could think more clearly. The next thing I did was shut down facebook and emails while I was on a project. I do a lot of work through those avenues and I would get really distracted by answering comments, emails, etc, randomly throughout the day. Now I have a more scheduled time that I check them.

We do many of these things to get our mind off of stress or relax after a hard week, but the problem is, it is not fixing the stress in our life, it is just distracting us from it.

Spare time is there, you can find it, all you have to do is look for it…

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6 Steps To Get You Headed In The Right Direction!

2011-10-31T10:41:00.000-10:00

Many people come up to me and ask, “Where do you think that I should I be heading in life?” My response is usually the same, “Well have you given some thought to where you would like to be a year from now?” Then comes the bewildered look, followed by the classic answer of, “No, guess I never really thought about it.”

Now don’t get me wrong, I do help these people, especially if I am consulting for them. Because let’s face it, if you are confused, a consult can be extremely helpful. But, I do like to know what their thought process is so that I can help them learn what to do, instead of just giving them a quick fix. In my experience people tend to over complicate things most of the time, and my rule of thumb is simplify, simplify, simplify!!!! That being said, people need to spend more time clarifying their destination.

For those of you who follow me, I know I am harping on this, but think about it, how on earth do you expect to get somewhere if you don't know where you are going?!?!? Many times people think that they need an expert to tell them what their skills are, or where they should be heading. But let’s face it, who is the most qualified expert, someone truly knows what your wants and needs are? You! You are underestimating your own skills!! It is not as hard as you think to figure out what fits you in your current situation, it just takes some time to think it through. More importantly it is FREE!

“Excellent!” You are probably thinking, “Now how do I do that?” Well I am going to give you an easy 6 step process and here it is.

6 Steps To Get You Headed In The Right Direction:

1) First of all (again, do not over complicate this) it is a simple process of figuring out what are your wants and your needs are. Very simple! Do you want more time, do you need a vacation, do you want more stability, do you need less stress. Take some time and figure these things out and put them down on a list. Do not rush this process, you might even want to carry a piece of paper around with you for a week, with the idea of completing this task. Because, during the day, is most likely when you will be able to identify what you want to put on the list. Then jot it down so you don't forget, and go about your day.

2) Spend a few minutes, hours, or weeks and imagine...what would your ideal day be like? Usually this pertains to work, so what would be your ideal work day be like? Imagine what kind of hours you would be working, what time of day would you go to work and when you would come home, what type of people would you like to work with, what type of environment would it be? Would you be able to use your creativity, or would it be more structured? Spend some time on this and decide what would your ideal work day be like.

3) Next figure out what your ideal home situation would be. Would your space be cleaner or more organized? Would it be larger so that it didn't feel so claustrophobic? Would you live in the same city, in the same state, or somewhere else? Would your live with different people? What feels good to you, or should I say, what feels better to you?

4) With these two steps you should be starting to get some clarity. Take some time to visualize what it would feel like if your ideal day (home and work) was your current reality. Really let this vision take hold. Imagine going through a typical work week, what you would be doing every day and how does it feel? Ahhhh…..it should feel really nice, because you have created this environment. If it doesn’t feel right, start over again, until you get to the "ahhhhh….that feels good and way less stressful" part! Stay there for a moment, and enjoy the feeling, you should begin to feel your muscles relax and the stress melt away. Then allow yourself to feel the excitement of bringing some new changes into your life and how good that feels, breathe in your new life, and exhale the old stress.

5) Every morning or night (I prefer you do both) you are to take a few minutes out of your day and visualize your future, your ideal day life, a year from now. Spend time enjoying that feeling everyday. It will begin to feel like your comfortable place, you will enjoy being there. It doesn't have to be a set amount of time, it can be 2 minutes or 20 minutes. It is really good to do this during your "falling asleep" time. When you are lying in bed, about to drift off to sleep, 90% of people recount the stressors of their day and predetermine their stressors of tomorrow. Biggest mistake people make!!! You are using some of the most valuable time, the alpha brainwave state, to manifest your stressors into your future reality. Let's use it more constructively shall we?

6) Now start making choices that will begin to align your with where you want to see yourself a year from now. Do not sabotage yourself and make opposite choices, out of fear or worry. Many times people are in their current situation because of fear and worry, so this is about trying something new and using a different approach. In other words, if you want to live somewhere else, begin looking at other places or saving some money or both. If you want a different job, begin the process of scouting out what fits you better. Tell your friends what you are looking for, many times if you follow these steps the Universe will bring opportunity to you, and sometimes that avenue can be through friends or acquaintances. Make choices that MOVE YOU FORWARD! Because most likely you are currently making choices that keep you right where you are.

All of this can be done in your spare time. Many times people do not think they have any spare time, but this is far from the truth. Most people just spend their spare time on facebook, the computer, on the phone or watching tv. I know as well as the next person, that when you begin to do any of those things, minutes turn into hours, hours turn into days and days turn into years...you catch my drift!

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Gotta Love The Dalai Lama!

2011-10-27T11:58:00.000-10:00

The Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity, answered, " Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. He is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then he dies having never really lived."

Do You Feel Like You Are In A Rut??

2011-10-24T10:02:00.001-10:00

When I wrote the article "Energies Of 2012 Are Upon Us" I got quite a few emails asking to elaborate a bit more on some steps to take when you are feeling this flurry of undirected energy. You asked so for it, so here are some easy steps that you can take, broken into two different categories. Why two categories you may wonder? The first one will be for linear thinkers, these people like to think things through on a more practical level instead of spiritual. The second category is for the more spiritually based thinkers. Now keep in mind that it is most effective if you just do all of these things, or at least some of the things from each category.

Linear Based Thinkers:

1) Educate yourself more on the relationship between energy and money. Money is energy! Most well known financial advisors like Suze Orman and Rich Dad Poor Dad talk about money as an energy. This is why money is also referred to as currency.

2) Shift you perspective and take your power back. You are not a victim unless you allow yourself to be!

3) Get rid of the mind clutter! What is most important to you at this time of your life? Do you need to get bills paid, more freedom, more time, etc. Then create a list and prioritize the list from top to bottom, most important things first. Focus on tackling the things at the top of your list, then working your way through to the bottom. Many people just feel like they have a barrel full of issues to deal with and no organization, so they have no idea where to start. When you have no organization this leads to something that I like to call “mind clutter”. The problem with mind clutter is that it will leave you feeling really overwhelmed, and with no clear starting point, it’s just easier to put things off over and over again. Then your barrel gets really full and that can lead to major stress or anxiety.

4) Prioritize yourself and implement the 75/25 rule. What is the 75/25 rule? You commit 75% of your free time focusing on yourself and 25% of your free time helping others. Why? Because most people commit more free time to helping others then they commit to making their own life better. When you fly on an airplane during the safety instructions the stewardess will say, "Make sure to put your own oxygen mask on first before you help others, in case of emergency." It is similar to this, you cannot help other people when your own life is in shambles or your are unhappy. Why? Because, even though you might beg to differ…it is not effective, period! It is way more effective to help others when you, yourself, have it together. Let’s face it, how well would you take relationship advice from your cousin who is an unhappy, self proclaimed, serial dater? That advice is not as effective as grandma and grandpa who have been married for 45 years! Especially when it seems that they have truly experienced the ups and the downs of a relationship and how to deal with them in a successful manner. If you are the cousin, then let’s get it together!

5) Imagine where it is that you want to see yourself one year from today, then start making choices that align up with that vision. When I ask my clients if they have a picture of where they would like to see themselves a year from today (which I do often), 95% of the time they have never thought about it before. Big mistake! How can you get to your destination if you do not know where your destination is?

Energetic Development (Spiritually Based Thinkers):

1) Break Inertia!!!! What does that mean? Do something different, switch up your daily routine. If you are sluggish get moving, if you are hyperactive, be still. For instance if you normally exercise at night, then start doing it in the morning for awhile. If you don’t exercise at all, then take a walk, jog, ride a bike or play tennis twice this week. If you normally do house work in the evening, do it in the morning. Break boring repetitive patterns and choose a challenge. Power is seldom developed by clinging to security, give up being safe, and your power chakra will awaken more quickly!

2) Avoid invalidation and criticism from those who do not understand your situation, especially if you are a sensitive person who takes things to heart. When you are undertaking something new and uncertain, invalidation and criticism can be an instant power crippler!

3) Make sure your energy travels in a complete circuit! In other words, what you put out comes back, remember the 75/25 rule.

4) Both effort and resistance are tiring and wear your energy down. That is a sign that your power is not flowing harmoniously. When you find yourself straining with effort…stop!!! Think about what you are doing and imagine doing it without effort – smoothly, enjoyably. (Morning meditation)

5) Morning meditation! This is really important and believe me, I have gotten busy myself and skipped it, boy is that an instant reminder of why not to skip morning meditation, I think it's as bad as skipping breakfast! Take a minute, two minutes or five minutes, whatever you want and sit quietly in a chair. When you do this I want you to imagine your day going exactly the way that you want it to. Any worries that you have, see them working out just like you want. Then see yourself at the end of the day before bed thinking, “Wow, I had a great day today!”

6) Breaking attachments! If, after reasonable effort something is not working, LET IT GO! Energy that is directed toward something that is not manifesting, is energy that is “hung up”, caught or otherwise useless. This can be exhilarating! The more you release, the less friction there is on your energy. The lighter you become, the more you move towards spirit and away from matter.

7) Attention…attention focuses energy! Pay it when it needs to be paid, give it to yourself. Notice where it goes, the rest of the energy will surely follow.

8) Grounding brings us into the present. Of course there is meditation for grounding, but you can also go jogging, power walking or ab workouts.

You will probably not do all of these things overnight, but pick the ones that resonate with you and if start doing those things right away you will surely begin to notice a difference!

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Are You Standing In Your Own Way?

2011-10-18T15:40:00.000-10:00

"People do not like to admit when they might be part of their own problem…in fact they become defensive about it. When you truly understand the role that you play in your own life, especially when encountering a problem, you become a powerful component. Until then, you just become a victim to everyone else’s behavior." ~ Jennifer O'Neill

What Is Meditation?

2011-10-17T10:04:00.000-10:00

Meditation is a practice of sitting quietly while regulating your breath using intone mantras or visualization in attempts to harmonize your mind, body and soul. Why is this important? Well because meditation is really affective in clearing out mind clutter as well as energetic clutter. It is knocking out two birds with one stone so to speak, on a spiritual and physical level.

You clean your house, take showers, eat right and maintain your physical health by getting the proper rest, etc. Well equally important to your physical and spiritual health, is to keep your mind and your energetic field as clutter free as possible. This will allow you to operate at your most efficient level.

There has been some extensive studies done on meditation and the most noteworthy finding of these studies seemed to show in the EEG measuring of brain-wave patterns. During your waking consciousness, brain waves are random and chaotic. The brain usually operates with different wavelengths from the front to the back of the brain, and from hemisphere to hemisphere. Meditation changes this drastically. Subjects in meditation show increased alpha waves and these waves continue to increase throughout the duration of the meditation. Also, the front and the back of the brain begin to synchronize as well as the left and the right hemispheres. In other words, the different areas of your brain begin to work together synchronistically! The Huffington Post reported on research which shows that the daily practice of the Transcendental Meditation technique creates more efficient, integrated brain functioning. After a few months this integration in the brain is not just noticed in during the meditation state but during daily activity as well.

Meditation has also been linked to lowering blood pressure, helping with anxiety and depression just to name a few. Not to mention the spiritual aspects of raising your vibration, intuitive development and raising your consciousness.

Here is a meditation exercise I designed to help you work more efficiently with the Universal Laws. I suggest doing some type of meditation at least once a day, I personally recommend in the morning if you only have time for one meditation. Morning meditation, I have noticed, definitely sets the tone of your day.

Before you begin, find a quiet place where you will not be disturbed. You will be using a chair for this meditation, so find a comfortable chair to sit in, then place both feet flat on the floor.

1) Define what it is that you want to achieve in your meditation. This is a very important step whether it is calmness, joy, better health or happiness. Whatever it is that you desire. This is very important because intent is what actually creates anything whether it is in the Spiritual or Physical realm.

2) Sit comfortably in a chair or in an up right position in a quite place.

3) Close your eyes and concentrate on your breathing. Slow your breathing to a relaxed state.

4) When your breathing is rhythmic, then concentrate on relaxing all of the muscles in your body.

5) Imagine that your spine is like a string on a musical instrument. Imagine that this string or cord attaches all of your chakras together, from your root chakra to your crown chakra.

6) Visualize this string or cord vibrating. Imagine that you are in control of how fast or slow the vibration is. Next raise this vibration to the highest level of vibration that you can achieve.

7) When you are vibrating at a high level, imagine that you can see a river above your body. Imagine that this river is the river of the Universe. This river of the Universe contains all of the Universal energy.

8) Then visualize that you are attaching your energy to the Universal River. When you attach you energy with the Universal River feel yourself flowing in harmony with the Universal Laws.

9) From that state imagine whatever it is that you desire being attracted to you. Imagine that your desires are coming to you as if you are a human magnet.

10) Remain in this state until you feel a sense of completion, then release this image into the Universe.

You should not set a time limit on how long or short that your meditation should be, just do what feels right. For many people it will change each day, some days it might be 20 minutes while others it might be 2 minutes.

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Spiritual Alignment

2011-10-15T17:01:00.000-10:00

"Alignment is spiritual, physical and mental, therefore, it is most important to make choices that are in alignment with where you want to go in life or who you want to be. That creates a change in scenery so to speak…if you make choices that are not in alignment with those things, don't be surprised at the view you do get. You are a reflection of the choices you make!"~ Jennifer O'Neill

Relationships - It's Complicated!

2011-10-11T08:40:00.000-10:00

Why is it that so many relationships nowadays seem so complicated? I think that the reason is actually very simple; it comes down to different levels of commitment. Years ago, people dated - they dated to find a person that they would like to marry. Dating was more serious, so when you were on a date you were seeing if the other one was a good fit for a possible spouse. Everyone was really more on the same page, because there were only a couple of pages. Now there is a whole book and it is hard to figure out where your date is. Now here are different levels of commitment in no particular order, it kind of goes like this:

Chapter One - Just Having Fun!

Chapter Two - Want Girlfriend/Boyfriend.

Chapter Three - Want Serious Girlfriend/Boyfriend, No Marriage!

Chapter Four - Want A Hook Up That I Can Call My Girlfriend/Boyfriend Only When I Want To.

Chapter Five - Want To Keep You On The Back Burner, Just In Case Nothing Else Works Out.

Chapter Six - Commitment Phobia!

Chapter Seven - Dating A Person That Does Not Want To Commit But I Am Sure They Will Change Their Mind.

Chapter Eight - Want To Know Marriage Is In The Future.

Chapter Nine - Looking To Get Married (For Some The Book Ends After Marriage).

Chapter Ten - Looking To Get Divorced!

Chapter Eleven - Want A Girlfriend/Boyfriend, But Have A lot Of Baggage And A Million Reasons Not To Get Married Again!

Chapter Twelve - Dating Someone Much Younger Because They Are Hot!

The problem with this is that men and women are almost always in different chapters. Where I see a lot of women is in Chapter Seven dating men that are in and around Chapter Four to Chapter Six. Are you guilty of dating someone who is not a good match for you? Let's just be clear - if you are looking for a long term relationship with your significant other and they are not ready to commit, you can not make them commit, nor do you want to!!! If you have been dating for awhile and I mean several months or a year - if they are ready to commit to you long term, you will have no doubt in your mind. Girls have a hard time with this but ask any guy you know, your man will let you know if he wants to get serious with you. They will not let you slip away if they think that you are the one for them.

On the other hand, if you have been dating awhile and your boyfriend or girlfriends facebook status is still single, or blank, they do not like you to go to parties with them or they tell you that they just want to date for like ten years! Leave - the chances of them changing their mind are about as good as you winning the lottery! If they do change their mind and you are gone, they will come looking for you. Stop wasting your valuable time dating people that are not a good match because you think that they are a good catch. If they do not want to be caught it is kind of a moot point isn't it?

Please date men or women in the same chapter as yourself. In order to do this take a step back and see who they are in someone else's eyes (or just ask your ever so patient friends, with a strong opinion about your situation). In other words stop dating Chapter Six thinking that Chapter Seven is right around the corner, especially since Chapter Seven is a very long miserable one. If you insist on doing this, you will be wasting more valuable time, and the next thing you know, you will be alone, however, your significant other will have most likely moved on to Chapter Twelve!

Change your thinking, you deserve a great relationship and accept nothing less! There are tons of people in the world and they just fit together differently. Imagine that all of the women and men in the world are like puzzle pieces. When you are working on a puzzle, just because one puzzle piece does not fit you do not throw it in the garbage and decide all of the puzzle pieces are the same. You know that they are all different, so you just keep looking until you find the perfect fit. Don't waste your time with the same puzzle piece trying to make it fit, it will never work!

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Energies Of 2012 Are Upon Us!

2011-10-07T10:23:00.001-10:00

What in the world is happening? I am encountering many, many people who are experiencing the same thing around the world…..a flurry of undirected energy! I have friends and colleagues that are wondering, what’s this all about? I am normally focused, I can usually get things done in a timely manner, but lately I feel like I am going in circles!!

So, why is this happening? Well there are a couple of things involved here, we are now moving into a new consciousness era, 2012. That famous Mayan Calendar that everyone is talking about, you know the one where the world is coming to an end? Um….ya…..not so much. What is coming to an end is the old consciousness era and the old way that you used to think about things. That era is definitely coming to an end.

You are becoming increasingly aware of your energetic body and your spiritual being whether it be on a conscious or unconscious level, either way you are going to experience some things physically as a result. One of the things I am noticing across the board is how it is affecting peoples 3^rd chakra. Why would it be affecting everyone’s 3^rd chakra at one time you may wonder. Well, when this chakra is affected, it can be as a result of experiencing a loss of power and control. Think back to what has been happening in the last few years. The real estate bubble began to burst, the stock market began to plummet, the US economy is going down, loss of jobs, loss of houses, bailout money was printed, loss of benefits, cutbacks, loss, loss, loss….There is an overall feeling of helplessness and that we have lost control of our power as a country. Hmmmm…..make sense? Well what happens when you feel that you have lost your power and that it has been taken away from you? You become “ungrounded”. Normally, when a flood of new energy comes into energetic your system, like what is happening with then energy of 2012, and you are grounded it can feel empowering and vitalizing. However, if this happens and you are "ungrounded", you will feel a flurry of undirected energy.

Here are some examples of this: Many of the young adults and children are getting flooded with this new energy and feeling empowered and vitalized. They are in fact very "grounded" right now. You are seeing this with Occupy Wall St and what happened in Egypt, they are finding their voice, they are finding their power across the globe. They are naturally flowing with this new energy, it is more closely matched with their system. If you are near 30 and up, however, the opposite is mostly true. We tend to be "ungrounded" right now, due to our current belief system and fears that we have been facing. Since we have been on this earth longer, our system has more adjusting to do, causing a longer adjustment period. This is reflecting in the feeling of being unfocused and going in circles, usually something out of the ordinary.

I am sure you are thinking, “Ok great, well all I care about it fixing it! Can you tell me how I can do that?” Yes I can! Because so many people have asked for my help with this, I recently did a quick webinar so that I could give you some detailed instructions on how to adjust faster and now! There are some quick tips to get yourself back into balance. (FYI - I have had a tremendous response in appreciation from people who have listened to this). It's was free and you can listen to the replay by clicking HERE or on the player below. It was very popular and has been very helpful for people, so check it out! Especially since its free! Just throw it on in the background while you are cleaning, resting or going in circles. Then email me and let me know what you are struggling with and I will try and address it in my next webinar or blog. Email me at jennifer@jenniferopsychic.com

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What Do You See?

2011-10-05T15:39:00.005-10:00

"What you see in someone else is usually only 10% of who they really are….see, your true identity exists beyond what your eyes can see….in other words, there is so much more to you then you often realize!" ~ Jennifer O'Neill

Soul Nourishment Series…Day 4!

2011-08-31T11:35:00.002-10:00

This is a very proactive day for you! Many times people have things in their life that they would like to change, yet instead of acknowledging what these things are and fixing them, they silently stew. This stewing is in the back of their head most of the time, on a subconscious level and stewing builds aggravation.

Changing little things in your life seems so easy, so than why do you not do it? Well because deep down you know the truth that it is not easy at all and in fact it takes a bit of work. You must first acknowledge that change is needed, and in order to do some acknowledging you must take responsibility. That alone can make you cringe...for most people is very hard to do. Then there is problem solving. Here is what you are thinking I am sure, "What! Don't I do enough problem solving! My kids, my boss, I am tired of problem solving! I want to watch tv!" Last but not least and this is where it can be tricky, you need to believe that your life is worth the work! It is funny how much time and energy you can put into helping other people solve their problems, but when it comes to your own life, settling is just easier sometimes, then initiating change.

Change is not easy, but it is rewarding, and you have to want change more than you want to settle!

So here it is:

1) Make A List: Make a list of 5 things that you would like changed in your life. Your job, money situation, car, wardrobe, computer, shoes, weigh issue, hair, etc.

2) Write On Paper: Take five sheets of paper and at the top of each page write something different that you would like to change.

3) Address Each Piece of Paper (Or each issue): Under each heading you are going to give some thought to what it is that would help you resolve the issue, or change it for the better. For instance say your weight is page one, something that might make you feel better is losing 25lbs., maybe just looking physically fit, or more tone. If your wardrobe is page two and something you would like to see changed, something that might make you feel better is having updated clothes, clothes that fit, or clothes that flatter your figure. If you do not like your job is page three, what is it that you want? More flexability, more money, vacation, insurance, closer to home? You get the idea here.

4) Make A Game Plan: Make a game plane to clear out the past and bring in the new, gym membership, buying healthier food, running, etc. Acknowledge that change does not come about unless initiated!!!! If you are the one wanting change, and stewing, then you are the one that is going to need to be proactive. You can sit on the couch all that you want and visualize losing weight, finding your soul mate, or working somewhere you love, but I guarantee that it will be coupled with the feeling of aggravation and that is self sabotage at its best! When you have a game plan and you begin to move towards being proactive, you begin to feel an energetic shift. See, this is very key here, your intent shifts your energy and what you are projecting about your situation into the Universe. This little shift is a major component to bringing what you want into your life.

5) Problem Solve: Treat these items as if your boss has given you the list and you are going to have to resolve each problem. Somehow people can do things like this easier if they are asked to do it by someone else, for someone else's benefit. Write down steps you can take to get the result that you want, as if you have to show your "game plane" to another person. Or even better, do this with a friend and do show it to another person!

6) Set A Date: Put a date under each item of when you plan to start moving toward your goal of addressing and changing that particular issue. You can work on a different one every week, or you can do them all at one time, however you choose.

7) Execute!!!! Implement change and note your progress and the steps that you take to get the change that you want. This is important!!! NOTE YOUR PROGRESS! Because you will forget all of the things that you did to implement the changes. Many times people will do several things to initiate change and only remember a handful. If you note all of the things that you do, it is like giving your self a pat on the back upon your review. Review your progress at the end of the month!

Soul Nourishment Series…Day 3!

2011-08-29T09:23:00.002-10:00

This is going to be a hard day for many people! But the challenge is not without it’s rewards! Today you are going to commit to taking COMPLETE responsibility for your own happiness!!! I bet some of you are almost laughing thinking, “Are you kidding? That’s it!” Well good, then you should welcome the challenge.

How relieved would you feel if you knew that no one, and I mean no one, could affect your happiness? Not your spouse, kids, parents, boss, no one! Just feel that for a minute…..doesn’t that feel nice? Don’t you almost feel lighter knowing that your happiness cannot be affected by other people?

Hmmm….well, it might be your lucky day. You see this is the deal, most people react to other people, you react to the way that they communicate with you with their tone of voice, facial expressions, etc. You react to situations that you are in, and your perspective, so today is the day to change all of that!

Here is what you are going to do:

1) Start your day sitting in a chair for 2 minutes or however long that you would like, and go to the end of the day in your imagination and just imagine that you had a wonderful day. Do not go over any details, just how you feel at the end of the day. Imagine that you feel lighter, and happy about the daily events.

2) Throw all of your expectations of what you want other people to do out the window. You cannot punish anyone, by anger, the silent treatment, etc., for not living up to the expectations that YOU set for them. This is waaaaaaay too common and something that I see a lot. It is just not your place, you definitely set yourself up for disappointment here, because the funny thing is, most of the time you do not even tell anyone what your expectations are! Hmmm...that is definitely setting someone up to fail!

3) Do not react negatively or respond in anger to anyone else having a bad day. Do not ALLOW them to affect your happiness. Even if you feel that it is directed at you. Who cares if they are unhappy, it’s not your problem… "Do not take someone else’s unhappiness personally.”

4) Do something that you enjoy today, not just what you feel like you “have” to do. In other words, let the dishes slide tonight, let someone else make dinner, watch a movie, eat out, take a nap.

5) Do not force yourself to do the things you hate and then resent doing it the whole time. If you are working at a job you hate….it’s not anyone else’s fault, you have free will, it’s a choice. So as long as you are staying at a job or doing laundry, shift your perspective and be happy that you have free will, that you are healthy, that you have laundry to do, etc. No one can force you to do something without your “free will consent!”

6) DO NOT engage in any drama and or judge anyone and their situation. This is about your happiness, not about how you can fix other people’s happiness!

7) Do not watch the news or read the newspaper. Those events are 98% negative and out of the realm of your control.

Good luck! Then on to Soul Nourishment Series, Day 4!

Soul Nourishment Series…Day 2!

2011-08-25T09:45:00.002-10:00

This will be an interesting day! Today I want you to make a plan to do something that you have wanted to do for a while, but you have not yet done due to money, time, fear, family, whatever!

I want you to check off a “Bucket List” item so to speak! People spend a lot of time and energy talking themselves out of doing something or even planning to do something that they have always wanted to do. The reasons are endless! I don’t have time, my kids are little, I don’t have money, I will do that when I retire. Nope you are going to “plan” it right now!

It might be skydiving, a trip to Europe, a plane ride, a roller coaster ride, taking a Zumba class, learning French, visiting a friend, going to a spa, eat sushi, volunteer at a homeless shelter, etc. I don't even care what it is, just plan something...anything...that you have been putting off!

Here is what you are to do today:

1) Pick something that you have wanted to do for a while, something that you are really excited about or passionate about. Something that you have made many excuses not to do, until now.

2) Set a date to start, enroll or try this new thing. The date cannot be longer then a year from today, unless it is a trip to Europe or around the world. But DO NOT set the date longer then five years out!

3) If money is at all on issue, find a jar, a piggy bank or an empty bottle and label it. Put all of your change in the jar, everyday. Then, if you can, put the same amount in every payday $5, $10 or $50 whatever you are comfortable with. You can even sell things, have a rummage sale or pick up some extra hours, but make funding your excursion a fun focus.

4) Excuses are null and void here, they do not apply, in other words, it is your mission to make this thing happen. Not to name a million reasons why it won’t, because we already know that you can do that just fine! This is a mission to overcome the limits that you have set for yourself.

This is not just a self indulgent moment or exercise, the purpose of this exercise is to start over ruling your old belief system. The belief system that keeps you limited. This belief system of “I can’t” or “It’s just the way it is” affects aspects of your life that you are not even aware of. This is a pattern and a way of life for many of you, this is trained behavior....not the way life works! We are starting with baby steps here and then you will have the confidence to let this new mentality spill over into other areas of your life! Good Luck!

Coming Soon Soul Nourishment Series....Day 3!

Soul Nourishment Series…Day 1!

2011-08-23T08:47:00.002-10:00

Today is going to be a fun day. This is going to be about giving to others and acknowledging what you already have (cause let’s face it, you take it for granted that you have a home, etc.). Well it is time to wake up and smell the coffee so to speak!

Today I want you to take the focus off of yourself and what you don’t have and start looking at other people and how you might be able to help them. Many people are in the same boat as yourself, and many people are in a situation that is much, much, worse! Yes, I said it, much worse! Cause if you are reading this article, somehow you have access to a computer and you are not struggling to find clean water to drink…need I say more? This day is not about how you need help but how you can help one other person, you know…pay it forward kind of day!!!

Anyone can do this, whether it is money or time, here are some ideas:

1) Give money to someone in need. You can give $5, $1 or a $100 it doesn’t matter. Not to your kids, or family…this is about giving with no ties and no need for acknowledgement about the giving. Tip someone more than usual, donate some money to charity. However you want to do it.

2) Give some of your time. If you are a professional, donate 15 minutes or an hour of expertise. Donate babysitting time or volunteer!

3) Give clothes or items. There are almost always items around your house that you do not use, wear, or need. This is almost always true with toys and clothes. You can give them to a shelter, someone moving, toys for tots, Salvation Army, whatever!

4) Give food. Give to someone in need, a dinner or a can of soup, it doesn’t matter.

A lot of times people feel that a can of soup or a dollar is so little that it does not mean much. That is the wrong perspective, this day it is about the intent of helping someone in need, not how much you can give. The intent of helping people is very powerful! Can you imagine if even half of the population did this tomorrow? Can you image the energetic effect that it would have, the love behind the giving and receiving? Powerful!!!!

REMOVE ALL JUDGEMENT!!!! This is not your time to judge why anyone else is in their situation! It is your time to find love in your heart and give from there....that is all....nothing less, nothing more. Giving should just be that..giving!

Would love to hear about what you give, inspire others and post your experience...

Coming next Soul Nourishment Day 2!

"Everyone has Soul DNA," author says

2011-08-16T13:28:00.001-10:00

Here is a wonderful article that I was featured in by the Rapid City Journal!

‘Everyone has soul DNA,’ author says

‘Everyone has soul DNA,’ author says

Mary Garrigan Journal staff Rapid City Journal | Posted: Saturday, May 7, 2011 6:45 am

Psychic Jennifer O'Neill is the author of "Soul DNA." She is seen here on Tuesday, March 15, 2011. (Ryan Soderlin/Journal staff)

Information

“Soul DNA,” by Jennifer O’Neill costs $11.95 and is available through her website at www.soul-dna.com or www.jenniferopsychic.com. To schedule a speaking engagement or consultation, call O’Neill at 808-753-0920 or go to info-soul-dna.com

Ignore your soul’s DNA at your own peril, says Jennifer O’Neill.

O’Neill, a psychic who worked for many years in Rapid City before moving to Hawaii in 2007, has written a book, “Soul DNA,” which encourages people to find everything from spiritual happiness to financial success by identifying and using their metaphysical gifts.

“Everyone has soul DNA,” said O’Neill, who defines the term as the God-given abilities and talents that only need to be developed to bring abundance to life.

Her own spiritual gifts were apparent early in life.

“It’s something I just assumed everybody was. I didn’t know any different,” she said of her intuitions about future events and other people. “I just get pictures,” she said, describing her premonitions as memories of the future.

By high school, she was trying to deny her psychic abilities, but the day she was involved in a four-car accident on her way home from school after ignoring a warning about it, she decided that was a bad idea. “There’s a whole burden that comes with seeing these things,” she said.

She believes everyone has intuition, a gut feeling that is often ignored and goes undeveloped in most people. “But you don’t call it psychic intuition, because I think it freaks people out,” she said.

Over the years, she’s alerted many family members and friends about health concerns, career advice and financial issues, and made a living in the metaphysical industry as a psychic and spiritual guide in Rapid City. She and her husband have two children, ages 17 and 21, and live in Kailua, Hawaii, where she works as a psychic and spiritual guide. She also does readings by telephone and email, she said.

“I don’t need you to be sitting here in front of me,” she said.

Ninety percent of people who consult psychics do so because they are confused or conflicted about a decision or making some kind of transition in their life, O’Neill said. Her job isn’t just to tell them what the future holds, but to show them the route to happiness for themselves, she said.

“We’re really built with all the things to make us successful in life already in us,” she said. “We’re here to learn what those are.”

“Soul DNA” is her first book, but O’Neill says she’s a fourth-generation psychic in the Fahey family.

She was back in Rapid City earlier this spring to visit her grandparents, Pat and Lucy Fahey. Her father is Bob Fahey. She traces the family’s intuitive gifts to her great-grandfather, a Filipino medicine man.

“It’s sort of genetic, I think,” she said.

While in the area, she did readings for many clients she still has in the area.

“I notice that there is a great need for hope and knowing that things can be easier economically and spiritually in the area every time that I come back,” she said.

“Soul DNA” explores spiritual topics like happiness, past lives, free will, meditation and end-of-life issues, since O’Neill believes that human death is simply the release of the spiritual being from the physical body. She also interprets the Law of Attraction, which she says is one of the better-known of the Laws of the Universe.

The book is getting great response, she said.

“People love the detail and are telling me that they like it better than ‘The Secret.’ I feel that there is a definite void that has been left by ‘The Secret,’ leaving people searching for more, and my intent was to help people fill this void and implement changes into their own life,” she said.

Never Let Money Hold You Back….

2011-05-05T16:33:00.003-10:00

I was watching the Biography channel the other day and it happened to be on Paula Abdul. There were a lot of interesting things that she had to say, but one thing in particular caught my attention.

She was told over and over again how she would never become who she wanted to be, it was impossible. Many famous people tell you this, but rarely do they tell you how they got to where they got anyway. Well, not only did she work hard but she got creative, and this part is interesting. After she worked her way to the top of the Lakers girls, which helped to jump start her choreographing career, she finally got her first record deal. But there was a little snag, the record label gave her next to no money to make the record itself. You need money for record producers, songwriters, etc. This could have went very badly for her, but she got creative. Paula wanted to produce a quality record and she had no doubt in her mind that she could do it. She immediately started calling people like Prince, and offering to trade choreographing their next tour if they wrote songs for her. Done! She did this with about 4-5 other people, trading her skills for theirs. She said that she was not going to let money stand in way of her making a great album.

Now this got me thinking, many, many businesses do this and you never even know about it. When I was the General Manager for a football team we traded for everything, advertising, food for the players, housing, you name it! It saves the company money. I have traded for many things no matter what career I was in at the time, web design, pr work, headshots, etc. When we owned a business my husband traded concrete work for my son’s braces. I have a friend who’s parents trade many things from their business to other businesses, in fact, they are a member of a group that puts businesses together who want to trade products or services. I am sure that you have all heard of the couple that traded enough to furnish their dream wedding. The couple got engaged, but when they got ready to tie the knot, they faced the challenge of an expensive wedding in a shrinking economy. However, the future bride was determined that a bad economy was not going to stop her from her dream wedding.

She decided to trade their skills and time for what they wanted. They went to every vendor that they wanted a product or service from and told them that they would trade them their product or service. It was a huge success!

It wasn’t that long ago that people were trading beads and feathers for food and clothing or vice versa. Get back to that mentality, what skills do you have? Are you starting a business? Do you want to start a business? Trade, trade, trade!!! Don’t be scared to ask people to trade either. I have done a lot of trading in work whether I was working for myself or someone else and I have rarely been turned down. I would say 95% of the time they say yes and if they are not willing to trade for the whole thing they will usually do a partial trade. Trading is a win win for everyone!

So try it, I think that if it is something you have never done before you will be surprised!

Following Your Dreams Is A Lot Of Work!

2011-04-20T13:44:00.002-10:00

This is something that I think every time that I am in the midst of following another dream! But it is so true! Recently I am in the beginning stages of starting a t-shirt line and it seemed like a relatively easy thing to do when the idea came about. Just find some shirts and a screen printer and you are good to go, right? Um….ya….not really! First of all I want to use organic shirts, that is important to me, if I am going to sell t-shirts I want them to be eco friendly. Well, apparently designing organic clothes does not attract very many fashion designers, because the clothes (t-shirts anyway) are terribly unflattering! I am shocked at the giant men’s style t-shirts that they try to pass off as woman’s t-shirts. Then there are the ones that are so short that they stop right below your belly button. Who even wears those anymore? Organic companies get an D- for effort in style. I found this whole thing very interesting, and kind of sad that if you want to be eco friendly you need to look like a slob!

Anyhow, I refused to believe that this is true with all of the companies out there who sell organic t-shirts, so I begin my two week long search for a decent organic t-shirt. I find a great company in Canada! Yay! Until I find out that it takes as much money to ship the shirts as it does to buy the t-shirt, therefore, doubling the cost of each piece. Well, not a good idea unless I want my t-shirts to end up being $40 a piece, so again with the hunt.

Then there is the simple task of finding a screen-printer. Now that should be easy! After calling about a dozen screen printers and getting either no return phone call or a really high number because they do not like to do small runs (anything under 72 pieces for each design is considered a small run). The thought of doing the screen-printing myself became more and more appealing. Well, not really appealing, because I want to sell the shirts, not make them. But it was beginning to look like my only option. Turns out, though, after my faithful pursuit, that I did find two different people who gave me some decent pricing. Each of them seem to be more than happy to take me on as a client, even with small runs.

This is just some of the things (I like to call them mini hurdles) that I have come up against with my new venture. Some of the things have gone this way and other things have gone very, very smoothly! But isn’t it always the "hurdles" that we focus upon or get really stressed out about? So it has been a good lesson for me, and it always is. When I wrote my first book, that project had it’s own set of temper tantrums. But I learned to ignore them and release control of everything having to go one way, my way. When I learn to do that I always see another way, the Universe’s way and it never fails, it is always better!

So yes, your dream’s can become a reality, and yes, the Universe will work with you in order for it to happen. But never for a minute shy away from putting some blood, sweat and tears into your dream! Because that is a very important “ingredient” that many people miss when whipping up their Universal formula for success. Following your dreams is a lot of work, but I promise you, it is time not wasted!

Life Is Really About Overcoming Your Fear Of Failing!

2011-04-14T11:04:00.000-10:00

“Failure of what?” You might be thinking. Simple….everything!!! Failing in your relationship, failing in your job, failing to find happiness, failing in business, failing your kids, failing your parents, need I go on? People are so scared of putting themselves out there because if “it” fails (whatever “it” might be), it is hard to overcome, the feeling is terrible.

Then right when you are thinking about putting yourself out there, everyone promptly reminds you that your chances of failure are HUGE! (Don't you love that?) The divorce rate is soaring, the economy is failing, the world is unstable, and governments are fighting, your chances of being successful are very limited. Then they follow up with, "Are you sure?" With a very concerned look on their face. As if you have just snatched up your sword and are heading out to slay a towering, 30 foot, fire breathing dragon! (We will name the dragon "FEAR" for the sake of this story.) This dragon is very successful, in fact, "FEAR" has won all of it's battles thus far. Suddenly you become terrified, "What if I do fail? All of those things are true, so true that no one else is being so brave." You think, "Maybe I shouldn't even bother in the first place? Ya, that is definitely the safer choice."

The problem with this thinking is that we are made to experience, we are built as natural explorers on a Soul level. We want to live…we want to experience! So if you never put yourself out there, you are left with a longing and unsatisfied feeling on a much deeper level, much deeper then you even think about.

I know a couple who owned a contracting business and they did really well. People would say things like, “I wish I could own a business, or do what you are doing”, and their response would always be the same, “You can, you just have to put yourself out there!” Well, they would hear the same thing over and over again, “No, I have bills to pay. I can’t do that!” That would be followed by the many reasons why it wasn’t possible. The funny thing is, the same people who owned that business, also had bills to pay and they also lived paycheck to paycheck when they started their business. But what they did was, they overcame their fear of the business potentially “failing” (despite all the many warnings from friends) and tried it anyway. They were also scared, but they really wanted to own a business and their desire to own a business eventually out weighed the fear.

That is really what sets many successful people apart from the not so successful people. It is not that they had no fear, it was that their desire to succeed overpowered their fear of failing. Here is an example of some famous failures:

1) Michael Jordan - Cut from his high school basketball team (bet they feel pretty stupid).

2) Walt Disney - He was fired by the editor of a newspaper for lacking in ideas. (Good thing that happened or no Disney?!?! That would be weird).

3) Babe Ruth - Struck out 1,330 times.

4) Steven Spielberg - applied to U.S.C. film school, but was rejected three separate times.

5) Donald Trump – filed bankruptcy three times.

Those are just famous failures with good outcomes, but there are many, many ordinary people (I am sure people that you know) who have overcome their failures and fears to become very successful in whatever it was they wanted to accomplish. When we moved to Hawaii we sold everything that we owned, twenty years worth of things that we acquired, and moved 3500 miles away from the only place that we had known as home for our entire life. It was tremendously scary! We have people tell us all of the time, “I wish I could do that!” My husband and I always laugh and say, “Um, you can.” Then they proceed to tell us the many reasons why they can’t, family, money, friends, jobs, etc. We laugh again, cause we ourselves left all of those things behind. If someone actually said, “Cause it’s too scary!” We would understand.

It is important for you to know that most people are scared, they are scared of failing, but the people who overcome those fears and “jump off the high dive” so to speak, experience life the way it is meant to be lived. They feel a satisfaction of trying, down to their very Soul. Even if they fail, they learn from that experience and usually want to try it again. They begin to use any failures as learning material, as knowledge, in order to help them succeed.

"I've missed more than 9,000 shots in my career, I've lost almost 300 games. Twenty six times I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over in my life. And that's why I succeed!" - Michael Jordan

I love that saying…..

Your Job Doesn’t Just Affect Your Money, It Is Most Likely Affecting Your Relationship!

2011-04-12T09:17:00.002-10:00

Everyone knows how their job affects his or her money flow or finances directly, it is self-explanatory. But have you ever thought about how much your job affects your relationship? People on average spend about 40% of their waking time at one place, their place of employment. What happens at this place of employment? Many things, you experience praise and self-satisfaction, you get reprimanded, promoted, passed over for a promotion, appreciated, not appreciated, you laugh or you cry, it depends on the day. Since many people measure their own personal success through their job and how well they are doing at that job (without even realizing it), it certainly has an affect on your mood. Will your mood affect your relationship? Um....I hope that is self-explanatory also, if it isn't, your job is the least of your worries as far as relationships go.

Now this works both ways, if you are very happy with your job and you enjoy going to work every day, if you enjoy what you are doing, you are probably quite a pleasant person to be around when you come home. When you are in a happy state and feeling good about what you have accomplished that day, you will look for more things to feel good about. It is human nature to want to spread happiness around when you are in the midst of it. However, if you hate your job and what you do every single day, you can begin to feel like you are plagued with unhappiness. When this happens, the lines many times will become blurred between what is actually causing the unhappiness and what is an easy target for the unhappiness. If you wake up cranky at the thought of going to work and you are ticked off at the world when you come home, you may not be the easiest person to be around. In fact, you may be a little bit snippy (understandably) to your significant other, and when couples start being less then kind to one another, fighting is on the horizon. Many times this will become a routine before you even recognizing what is happening. You may think working at a place you don’t like is just what people do, your parents did it, your friends do it, it is just what you do to pay the bills. If you are one of these people you probably do not realize how much of an impact working somewhere you hate has on your being, in fact, it is safe to assume that you have greatly underestimated it. Unless it is of course affecting your health and even then, many people will try and stick it out until the bitter end, or until they end up in a doctor's office (If only people were so committed to their happiness or their relationships). So they think that the unhappiness they feel on a day to day basis when they come home is stemming from somewhere else and they unconsciously look for an easy target, and if you are fighting with your significant other...presto...easy target!

I recently read a story about a woman who had issues with her husband. He had a really good job and had been supporting the family for quite some time, when his job suddenly took a turn for the worst. He began struggling with money issues in combination with having a new identity crisis redefining who he was. This, in turn, caused him a lot of unhappiness. Well, this particular gentleman decided that the cause of his unhappiness was his marriage and he told his wife that he wanted to move out. His wife knew him well enough, and she was strong enough, to put her initial feelings aside and recognize that it really had nothing to do with her or their marriage, but that he was struggling with other issues. To make a long story short, he did not move out and they did not get a divorce. After about six months of giving him distance and allowing him to work through his issues, without her help (now that is very hard for a woman, so kudos to her), they are happily married now. He finally came around and realized that the marriage really had nothing to do with it, however, the marriage was an easy target to blame for feeling unhappy.

I have a friend whose husband has a very stressful job, and for the most part, he handles it pretty well. But on occasion, the stress becomes overwhelming for him and he becomes very unhappy. He becomes depressed and starts talking about all of the reasons that he is not happy, none of which seem to be the job. But my friend is smart enough to realize that his happiness level tends to move up and down according to what is happening with his work. Then she allows him to work through it, which he always does.

This scenario is actually a very common occurrence, common enough that you should give it some serious thought. I personally know many, many people whose job affected their relationship and not in the manner that you might think. Not because of an affair or anything like that, but because of how big of an impact a job has on your personal happiness. I know that many of these people do not and have not made the connection between how their job affects their relationship. You could very well be one of these people! I am sure you realize how your job affects your money flow and even your health, but most likely you are overlooking another obvious issue, your job affects your personal happiness...which in turn affects your relationship. Your personal happiness level affects everything in your life, but relationships are very sensitive to it. So take a moment to think about it, how do you feel about your job? Does it make you feel happy, satisfied, unhappy, inadequate, how is it affecting your personal happiness? Or maybe you should think backwards, how is your relationship? Is it worth keeping your job or is it maybe time to find a new one?

Is Watching The News Helping Or Harming You?

2011-04-08T08:48:00.002-10:00

Anyone else tired of consistently hearing negative things every single time that you turn on the news or open a newspaper? That is exactly why for the past 10 years I have boycotted the news. But every once in awhile, I get a glimpse of it and it is an instant reminder of why I boycotted it in the first place! Government Shutdown, The Dow Plunges, More Deaths In Iraq, Bailout Money Where Did It Go? Tired of hearing it!

I am especially tired of hearing it because; people making stupid decisions cause many of these things! Greed + Stupidity = World In Present State. Now there are also natural disasters that do occur, and those things are important to know about because many of us have family and friends in various places. Many people when they find out that I refuse to watch the news or read about it on the internet say, “How are you going to know if anything bad happens?” Well, I say, “I can safely assume that according to the news, something bad is happening somewhere in the world every minute of everyday. If a tsunami is headed my way, well, we have a very good warning system!” (That warning system consists of alarms going off and fire trucks driving down the street yelling with a loudspeaker system to evacuate, which will wake you out of a dead sleep! See…no need for the news!). With anything else that seems to be important, I can also safely assume that someone will tell me and believe me they will. It is funny how many people feel the need to tell me the news, or what bad thing that is now happening in the world or with the economy. People I know and people I don't know, it is a topic of discussion with everybody. Many conversations tend to revolve around all the scary stuff that is happening out there. People just feel like it is important that you must know and it is important to discuss. The funny thing is, if they had never told me about all of the "bad" things happening out there over the last ten years, my life would still be the same! Except for the fact that I would have many precious hours of my life back that would have seen "relaxation" instead of having them wasted on all the "stress" that it caused at that time.

So this brings me to the question, is watching the news helping or harming you? I believe that for the most part it is wrapping you up in a tornado of negativity that is unnecessary. It is causing your own perspective to be tainted with hopelessness and negativity and this will definitely affect your life, not for the better. You see I believe the news has gotten completely out of control, especially with the Internet. People and organizations, I feel, are using the “news” as a scare tactic and as a way to influence the way people think. With anything from health scares (swine flu, bird flu, influenza A, etc.) to the economy, your safety, and how you should be so afraid of losing money that you will agree with any solution (government bailout, Iraq war, etc.). Fear has been used as a form of manipulation for centuries, it is a very powerful and effective swaying tool. Especially when you can instill it into the masses and what better way to do it than the Internet. Why the Internet? Because it is global and you can reach the masses on a grand scale!

There are many positive things that happen in the world everyday, but who cares about that! Positive stories, well, they don't sell well, they don't get your attention. Fear, destruction, now that gets your attention! People have become so conditioned by being subjected to constant negativity, they are without even knowing it, in a consistent state of fight or flight mode, they search for things that they have to protect themselves from. Isn't that sad? Negativity is so present around everyone's lives anymore, that it is.... common? It is more believable anyway, after all, we are surrounded by it every single day. What is the new flu this year? (Because every year it mutates into something different, more flu shots!) Am I going to loose more money? Is there going to be another war? Is it safe in that country? What about the terrorists? Is the economy going to collapse?

So hopefully you are one of those people that do not watch the news, in fact, I believe that everyone should boycott it! But if you are, you may want to reevaluate whether it is the best choice for you. Because whatever you focus upon more, whether it positivity or negativity (even if you are just listening and not participating), it has an effect on your energetic system and it will become more present in your life. You also become more sensitive to negativity the more that you subject yourself to it and the world is a much scarier place . When you insulate yourself from all of the unnecessary fear tactics, the world is not so scary....life, is not so scary. I have enough issues that I need to focus my energy upon in my own life during the day, so I would much rather spend my time spare time laughing, talking with my family and enjoying Mother Nature! Watch CNN? Please, I will have to pass!

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Is The World Coming To An End in 2012???

2011-04-04T14:16:00.004-10:00

This is what a lot of people are wondering lately, with all of the earthquakes and tsunami’s that have been happening, especially with the latest one being in Japan. With the Mayan Calendar and 2012 that looms over everyone’s head, people are building up to a small state of panic. What is going to happen??? Is life as we know it going to cease to exist? Is Mother Earth going to erupt with volcanoes, earthquakes and tsunamis?? Of course fear is utilized in the marketing industry to it's fullest and this is a great marketing scheme, movies are being made, survival kits are being sold, magazines and tv shows are being watched about what is about to happen. Hmmm……sounds kind of familiar doesn’t it?

Remember Y2K? Remember 1999, right before it turned the year 2000 everyone, and I mean everyone, began to panic!! The hype was incredible about what was going to happen because the computers were not equipped to compute the New Year. Will the computers crash? What will happen to the banks, the economy, my money??? Unless of course you were in debt up to your eyeballs and had no money, then you were just hoping that it was going to be true. What would we do with no computers????? Ummmm....the same thing we did before computers, maybe? Just a thought! People waited in total fear as the clock ticked closer and closer to midnight. Then…..nothing….business as usual the following day. The 2012 thing has a similar theme going on. Let’s face it, the Mayan Calendar would have to end sometime, unless of course through generations and generations, they were still writing the calendar to this very day, and that is just from a logic standpoint. Now from a spiritual standpoint, let’s just start from the first part. Which is, as a psychic, I do not see anything drastic happening in 2012 other than the same type of earth changes and war between countries that we are already seeing. This also seems to be a consensus among many of the top spiritual leaders. Most of us are on the same page, in fact, I personally do not know anyone in my field that thinks anything different.

What do I see happening? I do see a spiritual awakening happening in the future, actually, it has already started. I see things happening with Mother Earth and with different governments and countries, around the globe, that causes people to want to become more spiritual, the most recent awakening resulting from Mother Earth shaking Japan. Material things become less important when you are involved in a major disaster such as that. You really become more in touch with what is really important in life, it becomes quite jolting to your system, to your Soul. This is what is happening over there. You want to know that there is a greater purpose in life and that there is someone watching over you. People will seek the truth more and they will go on there own spiritual journeys trying to learn as much as they can, not wanting to be dictated to, like what has also been happening in Egypt. The people will not stand for it anymore, they will come together and have more of a voice for the greater good, not for profit!

The earth is going through some major earth changes there is no doubt about that, but is the world ending? That would be a no, not right now, not in your lifetime anyway. Will the changes continue? Yes. Should you be afraid? No. People have lived for hundreds of thousands of years on this planet, surviving earthquakes, tsunamis, volcanoes, droughts, disease, famine, revolutions and war and they will continue to do so. But it takes a major catastrophe to pull people together, to unite instead of divide. The more spiritual that you become and the more you really begin to understand what life is about, abundance, success, generosity and love the better off we will be. The more people begin to unite and help one another, the stronger they will become. A spiritual movement is what I see coming and that is long over due!

Are You Cursed With A Poverty Mindset???

2011-04-01T14:56:00.003-10:00

Well first of all let’s just disregard the word cursed, because in the 40+ years of being a psychic I have never seen a curse because they do not exist (unless of course you have convinced yourself that they do, then, it is possible in your world, but not in mine ~ remember your reality is your perception). However, I did know that it would get your attention.

Let’s start with the basic issue….is there really a poverty mindset? Hell yes there is! Now do not get alarmed by my response but this issue tends to hit a nerve with me! Remember, that my blog is my venting forum! Now since we have established that there is such a thing called the poverty mindset, I know you are wondering, "Well what is it? Do I have it? I need to get rid of it!" A poverty mindset is something like this: You are certain that all things related to money are driven by the economy and the economy is bad, so you are doomed to be poor!

For example, do you ever find yourself thinking any of these things:

1) I have always struggled in the past, I am struggling now, and I do not see how it is ever going to change!

2) There are not enough jobs out there, since no one else is getting one I know that I won’t.

3) I can never afford anything that I want!

4) Those people that live like that are different, have better skills, I never get a break!

5) I want to do XYZ but I will never be able to because I don’t see it getting any better for me.

6) The economy is screwed, that means so am I!

It is SOOOOO important for you to get this, and I really mean GET THIS!!!!! Your thoughts do become reality! Now I am not kidding around here and people need to know this more then ever. This is not metaphysics, this is quantum physics and it has been proven on a scientific level!!! Secondly, there are more people making more money, every second, of every day, then you can possibly imagine! Now if it is just (physical) LAW that everyone’s finances are dictated by the economy, then this would not be possible! Thirdly, if that is all true, there must be something more out there that dictates our money flow!

Now if you every pay attention to Suze Orman, Rich Dad Poor Dad, Donald Trump, Bill Gates, Warren Buffet, or Sam Walton (I could go on) these people do not think of money in the same manner as 98% of the world. They know things and try and teach people, but for some reason it falls upon deaf ears. That is what will always separate the people. There will be one group who is sure that they are victim to how money flows to them, the economy, the stock market, gas prices, where they live, etc., and they will always be limited as to what flows in to their life. (There is another common poverty mindset word….limited!) They feel desperate for money, they never have enough, no matter how much they have they always "need" more. Money becomes a primary focus in their life (now that alone can be a huge problem no matter how rich you are or how poor you are, the more your focus is on the cash, I swear...you will repel it!), it is the reason that they are, unhappy! Here is another problem that poverty mindset people have, because happiness is a choice, not a side effect. There are some people in countries with no running water that are happier than people that I know who have water tanks full of water anytime of the day or night, they just turn on the faucet and there it is! Amazing!!! Now I am not making light of the money thing, you do need money to eat, pay the electricity bill and put a roof over your head. There have been many, many years that I have lived paycheck to paycheck barely making it, with $20 for the week to spend on groceries. Sometimes you need to work at a job that is low paying or that you do not like in order to do so, but this should be viewed as temporary, not permanent, while you pursue your passion and your dream.

Then there is the 2% who know, and truly believes, that money is energy and it is constantly flowing. They believe that there is more than enough to go around, that somehow, it will always work out. They also believe that they are in no way limited to the amount of money that will flow to them. They do not always need to know how it will flow to them, they just know somehow it will. They are not desperate for money, in fact they are so focused and concentrated on following their passion or their dream that money becomes an after thought (even while sleeping in their car or on someone else's couch). Passion becomes the focus, even the addiction, and that will effect your money flow in the opposite direction, a very positive one, given time.

Did you know that many of the richest people in the world were born poor, and they were driven by their passion (this is very key here, they were not driven by money, but by what they loved doing). Did you also know that many of them failed or were so poor while they were on there journey that they felt that they were at rock bottom and the only way to go was up, that their only option was to succeed. Staying at rock bottom, was not an option for them. Hmmm....succeeding while poor....Yes, I like that option!!! Many of these people believe, truly believe, to the bottom of their Soul that they are limitless, and that money is not restrictive, that their money flow is not tied to the economy or what other people are doing. You see many people with the poverty mindset look at money like it is in a clear cube, like the million dollars that you see in Vegas in one of the casinos in the glass cube. Poverty mindset people feel very different, they feel to the very core of their Soul, that it is untouchable! Feel the difference??? They know that it is there, they know that the money exists, but they do not feel that they could ever access it in there lifetime, because they cannot “SEE” how it is possible. There lies the difference....people who have acquired large sums of money in their lifetime (some of them started with less then you have right now) never needed to be able to “SEE” how it was possible in order to "BELIEVE" that it could happen to them. They just “KNEW” that it was, and therefore “SEEING” it happen became their reality!

"The Universe and Spirit does not understand limitations....PEOPLE invented limitations!" ~ Jennifer O'Neill

If you would like to learn more on being "limitless", you might enjoy my book "Soul DNA" it is available on Amazon.com

Your Emotions Are Food For The Soul!

2011-03-29T10:15:00.001-10:00

We are built with an amazing emotional pallet. There are so many ranges and degrees to the emotions that we feel on a day to day basis, that it is amazing! Almost every minute of every day you are feeling some kind of emotion. It is not something that you think about much unless you are feeling it on a powerful scale, otherwise it is just there, existing silently! When I am doing workshops I actually find it kind of interesting because many times people do not even notice that they are feeling anything...until I ask them to close their eyes and concentrate on what they are feeling in the heart center. People just take it for granted like they walk, talk and breath every day, it is a part of everyday, it is normal. However, this is something that you should definitely be more aware of, because your emotions are food for the Soul! Just like in the physical world, you need to watch what you consume on a spiritual level as well. Now I am sure that you are saying, "Just Great! One more thing to pay attention to!" This is true, however, this one will affect everything in your life so it is ULTRA important. (Knock some other things off of the list if you need to!)

People experience worry, stress, anger, depression, happiness, desire, excitement, boredom just to name a few, many minutes of every single day. The thing that people never pay attention to or seem to notice is that you feel all of these emotions in the body, many times in the heart center. People think that emotions are felt in the head, because they cry and laugh or get angry and it all shows up in the face. It also feels like that is where you control your emotions, so again, it is naturally just viewed as a mind thing or a head thing. It may absolutely start there, because emotions are a result of your perspective on any given situation. However, emotions are clearly tied to the body. There have been multiple studies on this very issue with cardiovascular patients, and type A personalities, but it is not observed nearly enough by people, unless they are having heart trouble.

As a psychic I see it all of the time and I see these emotions tied to many other things as well, stomach problems, headaches, backaches, intestinal problems, anxiety, breathing, it is incredible! This is something that is SO important to pay attention to if you want to live a healthier life, and doctors all over the country are beginning to recognize this as well.

Now if you change your perception of this and start paying more attention to the emotions that you are experiencing on a day to day basis and imagining that it is food for the Soul. What are you feeding your Soul?

Take a look at this Soul food chart:

Anger ~ Candy Bar

Worry ~ Soda

Depression ~ Alcohol

Hate ~ Triple Bacon Cheeseburger

Jealousy ~ Cotton Candy

Unhappiness ~ Cake & Cookies

Desire ~ Chicken + Calcium

Excitement ~ Potatoes + Vitamins A & C

Happiness ~ Vegetables, Fruits + Vitamin B

Love ~ Fish, Fresh Bread + Minerals

Now obviously we are not going to feed our body or our Soul only good foods, that would be almost impossible unless you are incredibly disciplined, and if you are, you probably do not need to read on!

Anyhow, the key is, like with most things to have a good balance. In other words, make sure that you do your best to consume nutrients instead of empty calories. Because if you have tipped the scale mostly toward empty calories you are going to feel tired, hopeless, crappy, and your health is going to suffer. Your Soul can only take so much of the empty calories before it begins to wither. When your Soul begins to wither everything else will be effected, it is the ruler of your Spiritual and Physical existence.

When you take good care of your Soul life becomes amazingly well on many different levels. Your physical existence can become greatly extended and your quality of life is soooooo much better!!! Trials and tribulations can feel easier to overcome and in some cases they will feel fewer and further between. Think of it like this, that you are paying attention to and working on building up your Soul's immune system. Because things do come up and you will have to go through many of the same stressors that other people do, but it is much easier if you start with a solid vessel and weather the storm that way.

So just remember to try and have a mostly good diet, then when the empty calories sneak in, you will bounce back quickly!

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2011-03-25T11:31:00.000-10:00

Be Careful What You Wish For!

2011-03-24T08:44:00.003-10:00

This is really a fun subject for me because I do not think that people pay enough attention to their thoughts….at all! Hence, my life’s work of trying to explain to everyone that your thoughts do become reality and to pay more attention to what you think about on a day to day basis. Anyhow, my family and I live our life thinking backwards in a sense. When something good or bad happens to someone our first response is always, “What have you been thinking about???” Then comes the fess up of whatever it may be.

Usually I will share stories that happen to me, or my family, so that people can understand better what I mean when I talk about this subject. That just makes it easier for you to relate it to your own life. So here is a funny story of what happened to us recently.

My family and I fly a couple of times a year, back to the mainland. As you can imagine, if you fly at all, that six hour flight across the ocean can be uncomfortable since it is a long time span and sleeping can sometimes be next to impossible. Well, anyway, the kids and me had decided over the last year, that we would like to fly first class sometime since we have never flown first class before. Plus, it really makes you want to try it when you pass through the first class cabin on your way back to those tiny little chairs that my youngest son always reminds me are not made for people that are 6’ tall! As you pass by those big comfortable chairs, which are obviously a marketing teaser, it makes you want to figure out how to sit there. So we went through some of our options. There is the obvious option of just purchasing first class tickets, which is definitely not an option for us since there are five of us total (not worth the extra $3000). Then there is upgrading, which you cannot do unless you pay for a class T ticket or higher (or something like that, I can’t remember the letter exactly, but we hadn’t done that cause I checked). Lastly there is an upgrade at the gate, if there are seats still available, for $200 a seat if you are flying to or from Hawaii.

Since we have wanted to try this for awhile we thought, well, let’s just save the extra money and upgrade at the gate if there are extra seats available. Now in the back of my mind I kept thinking….”Wouldn’t it be nice if we could fly first class and not have to pay $200 extra a seat?” Because ultimately over the last year I have been imagining that we get upgraded for no extra cost, but since that had not happened yet I had resorted to the idea of paying extra for the big comfy seats.

So on our first flight over to the mainland, there were no extra seats available in first class and we flew in our originally assigned seats. Most of us sat in the middle rows of the airplane, which are the most uncomfortable seats you can get. Except for my son who had a window seat. He was asked, however, to change seats with a woman who was flying with her baby, so that she would not have to get up during the flight if he needed out.

On our return flight, however, we were delayed because of weather. When I checked in with the front desk to see if we were going to miss our connection, they said yes there was no way to make the flight on time. Great! Since we booked a later flight out of our departure city this was definitely not good news, because most flights to Hawaii from the mainland stop about 7pm and resume the next morning. So our attendants tried for about a half hour to find 5 seats available on the same flight since many other people had been delayed as well. After quite sometime our attendant said, “Here is what we are going to do. We are going to book you through LA, but nothing leaves there until 8:50am tomorrow so you will have to spend the night there. However, there is no more room in coach so I am going to upgrade you all to first class tickets.”

“Oh...jeez, well, I guess that makes it a little better,” I thought to myself, “Then my next thoughts immediately went to, I wasn’t very specific with the first class seats in my Universal thought process. Note to self, be more specific with the Universe!” Then I went to tell my family that we were rerouted, finally, and that we were indeed going to be flying first class, with no extra charge, at the expense of staying overnight in LA. My husband said, "First class?" Then he made a slight frown and said to me, "Uh huh! Now I know why this happened!!” I said, “Honey I cannot change the weather in San Francisco! This is not entirely our fault!” Knowing inside that it was a little bit our fault and also knowing that the Universe is powerful beyond belief!

He smiled and said, “Sure it isn’t.”

You Are A Reflection Of Your Choices...

2011-03-22T09:08:00.010-10:00

I was driving in town the other day and I was looking around and noticing all of the different people at the cross walk, shopping, and walking down the street when it hit me very clear…you are a reflection of the choices that you make.

Think about it for a minute and think about all of the people that you know. They are clearly a reflection of the choices they have made in their life so far. The wonderful part of this is that we have choices, in fact many choices, every single day. The bad part of this is that we must take responsibility for the choices that we have made and the choices that we make, every single day.

Now think about how this correlates to your own life. Where you a teen mom? Did you finish high school or go to college? Did you pursue what it is that you love doing most in life or did you settle for fast cash? Did you marry for love? Did you stay for the kids? These are all choices that have probably very clearly defined your life.

Everyone has issues that they need to work through and even overcome, no one is immune to problems. It doesn't matter who you are, where you work, or if you work, it is something that all people have in common. How you choose to deal with those issues, however, is what sets people apart, that is the difference. What I think is most interesting is when people are at a place of unhappiness in their life, they blame many other things. They blame the economy, their health, their spouse or significant other, their parents, their childhood, you name it…there is definitely an excuse, because they would not be in their current situation by choice! That would be ridiculous! Or would they?

I know some very successful people who will settle for nothing else then just that, success! So they work and they plan, they fail and they overcome, but they will succeed. I also know some people that seem to never be able to get it together. They self-sabotage, they are broke, unhappy, and they cannot ever (they believe) seem to catch a break. They will make choices over and over that match who they are, it is very much a reflection of their personality.

How are you a reflection of your choices? What do you think other people see when they look at you? Does it reflect your personality? Does it match who you want to be? What choices have you made to contribute to where you are at currently? Some of them might have been good choices and some of them might have been bad choices, but that really doesn’t matter anymore...what matter’s is NOW. Take responsibility for the choices you are making from here on out, starting today. If you want to loose weight, stop eating unhealthy. If you are unhappy, figure out what choices that you are making that contribute to this. You can continue on in the same manner, and make choices that do not match who you want to be. You can to take your head out of the sand and realize that you, and you alone, have a tremendous amount of power over who you are. Realize that ultimately you are the final choice maker, in your own life. There is no one to blame; you are the CEO in charge! Or you can choose no longer to read my blog, because I guarantee that there will be more stuff like this in the future! Then go about your day, feeling depressed and hopeless...it's your choice!

~You are never stuck, unless you are choosing to stay there.

~You are never limited, unless you choose to limit yourself.

~You are never less than, unless you choose to see yourself this way.

~You will never fail, unless you choose failure as an option.

You are powerful beyond belief!!!!!!

~ Jennifer O'Neill

Why Does It Bother Us So Much When Other People Make Bad Decisions?

2011-03-02T13:32:00.001-10:00

Have you ever been watching someone make a bed decision and think to yourself, “What on earth are they thinking?” Then you shake your head and go about your day? I know that many of us do this while watching the television show Survivor. You see so clearly the obvious mistakes that they are making, while you watch from your couch usually after eating dinner. “Haven’t these people watched this show before they decided to become a contestant?” You may wonder as they are trying to start fire, again! It irritates you as you look for your blanket and grab your popcorn.

It is so easy to see mistakes that people are making when you are on the outside looking in. When you are not the one making a tough decision, the solution is obvious! Very obvious, because you really have nothing invested in the outcome. Because it affects their life and not yours! Now I am not talking about any situation that you are directly involved in, because that will automatically shift your judgment. When you are involved in making decisions your judgment becomes impaired. Many times your emotions become a determining factor and let’s face it, if you can make a decision more objectively without emotions being involved, piece of cake!

Watching your friends and family make bad decisions is hard. Now let’s define “bad”. From my experience watching someone make a "bad" decision is usually not even that bad. It is usually not something like drunk driving, stealing, or anything like that. I notice when people think that other people are making bad decisions what they mean by that is, “I don’t agree with what you are doing or that is not what I would do!” In other words, if it is not what they would like to see you do, then it is a bad decision. Hmmmmm……interesting isn’t it?

Just like survivor, the people on the show do not necessarily make “bad” decisions on a weekly basis. They just do not make the same decision that you think you would make if you were in the same situation (had you had the courage to make a video, send in an application, and go to some remote island for 30 days with people that you don’t know in order to “Survive”). Judging the actions of the contestants on this show is not really that far fetched from what people do every day back in the real world. You go about your day and many times during the week wonder why other people make such bad decisions. On some occasions you get together and even discuss these bad decisions with friends over lunch. If you think, “No, I would never do that!” Well you might want to think again….let's define the word "gossip". People love to gossip, “Do you know what so and so did! I know, why would they do such a thing?”

So the next time that you find yourself watching someone make a “bad” decision, you might want to stop and think, “Is it really a bad decision or just not the way that I would do it?”

Working With The Universe Takes Courage!

2011-02-28T10:02:00.004-10:00

What if you grew up in a world that had never taught you limitations? What if you were never taught that you had physical limits? What if you were never taught that life is difficult, and that making money is supposed to be hard? Your world would be completely different!

“The Universe and Spirit does not understand limitations... PEOPLE invented limitations!” ~ Jennifer O’Neill

When you are young you believe that anything is possible because you are fresh from the Other Side. You are born knowing the rules of the Universe and the possibilities are endless! Then you get older and all of the sudden people begin to tell you that this is not possible and that is not possible. Your memory of the Other Side begins to fade, and you start learning a new set of rules, Physical Rules. You begin to wonder, “Maybe here on Earth there are different rules?” You start doubting yourself and what you can accomplish. Jealousy sets in and people start desperately wanting what someone else has. You start to believe that there is only so much business to go around and so much money to be made. You start competing against each other, when you should really be improving yourself to see what you can accomplish with the Universe. The people that taught you to believe that you are limited are limited themselves; so that is what they teach, they teach what they know.

Many years ago, I began doing readings, writing and spiritual teaching. As a psychic, I have noticed in recent years that people are unhappier then they have ever before. As a writer and spiritual teacher, I am always looking for ways to help people live happier lives. In the last couple of years I began receiving information from my spirit guides or spiritual teachers on “Soul DNA,” and how to help people understand who they are a little bit better.

When you become an adult, it is very hard to relearn what you used to know to be true, to believe in a new set of rules. You have been taught Physical Rules for so long that you have forgotten about the Universal Laws or rules. Physical Rules are fear based, so people become afraid. They become afraid of doing something different in life, they become afraid of what their friends and family might think, or afraid of what might happen. So they stay at a job they hate, or in a relationship that is not working and it begins to take its toll.

Let’s take your occupation for instance. One of the things that I have noticed over the years is how unhappy that people are in the work place. Unhappiness does not necessarily have to be the fault of the work place or the fault of the people that work there; “career incompatibility” may be to blame.

Since you spend about 40% of your waking time at work, why would you choose your work place so carelessly? Most people choose this way because they base their belief system on Physical Rules. They find it hard to believe that you can actually get paid for something you like to do or that you are interested in, unless you have the very unlikely gift of being a professional athlete or something. They go about finding work the wrong way, by looking in the paper and seeing what is out there and what pays the best. In other words, money first! This is the complete opposite of working with the Universal Laws. When working with the Universal Laws you must follow your passion, your intuition and what it is that you are gifted at.

Many people do not understand the relationship that they have with the Universe, and how it can open up doors for them if they just take a leap of faith… but that takes courage! You need to find courage in yourself to do something different. You need to trust in the Universe and this is not easy in fact, it can be just the opposite, it can be quite terrifying! This is why taking a leap of faith is so hard for people to do. They get so caught up in the fear of things turning out badly for them (or possibly getting worse) that they do not even entertain the idea that things might get a lot better… if they can just find the courage to try something different.

When you do not believe in limiting yourself, you will have a whole different experience. You will find success where people told you it was not possible. When you find your courage, courage to trust the Universe, you will find out that the Universe has a whole different set of rules; to follow your passion and to have the compassion to help others. You will find that there is more abundance then you can imagine, that opportunities are endless! If you do this doors will open where there were walls before, and you will meet people that will help you when things get difficult. There is more success, happiness, and wealth in the Universe than you can possibly imagine! There is plenty to go around; and when you understand this, there will be no jealousy. You will begin to understand that everyone should help each other achieve their dreams to the best of their ability. They will in turn help and support you in your success.

Eventually, I noticed a need to get this information out, so working with my Spirit Guides or Spiritual Teachers, I compiled it into a book titled “Soul DNA.” After writing the book, I decided to test this information myself. I began to see drastic changes in my own life and people began to take notice. Since this book was still in production, I thought, “Let’s take this one step further and teach other people this information, and how to use it in their own lives to see if it would have the same affect on their happiness.” I began teaching this in my readings and lectures, and the results were amazing! People began to email me like crazy, telling me how their lives had changed for the better. Then their friends would take notice and they would call me for a reading or bring me in to do group lectures.

Even when they find their courage, people want to know, "Well how do I know what my gift is?" Just figure out what it is that you most enjoy doing in life. It might be fishing, writing, reading, playing sports, talking with people, teaching, math, shopping, cooking or helping people.

Working at something you enjoy does amazing things to your spirit! The fulfillment is wonderful and the income potential is endless if you are in harmony with your passion and gifts. If you are unhappy in your job or are looking for a job, find your courage and take a leap of faith!

Relationship Obsession

2011-02-24T09:34:00.001-10:00

People are obsessed….they are obsessed with relationships. If they are not obsessed with their own relationship then they are with other people’s relationships. Take Bella and Edward in Twilight for instance, people are obsessed with their relationship and it is not even real! But, it is fun and it is passionate and everything you wish for in a relationship. You can just feel the intensity between the characters illuminating from the movie screen into the theater and it feels wonderful! People love to fall in love, they love how it feels. It has become an obsession, and finding a relationship is the way to get there. Then you leave the movie theater and just like that...you are back in the real world! The real world is different. So many people are unhappy with their current relationships status no matter what it is. Your friends, family, co-workers, they all complain. In my line of work relationships are one of the top subjects that people want to discuss. If they are in a relationship then they want to know when it is going to get better, if they are not in a relationship then they want to know when they will be in one, if they have been in one for a long period of time then they are bored and want to get out of one. They are constantly searching for something better.

Relationships are what make the world go round for most people. Now the problem that many people have is they spend more time trying to get in one, or get out of one, than they do trying to make one work. Why is that? I think that people believe that once a commitment is finally made, then comes the easy part and that could not be further for the truth! It is in the middle when it gets difficult, getting in one or out of one is the easy part. Now staying in one….that is the challenge! It’s like relationship boot camp and they do not show that in Twilight!

Here are simple tips to get you through the boot camp phase. They are very common mistakes that people make:

1) A relationship does not give you permission to finally let yourself go. Ahhh, finally! I can eat what I want when I want! This applies to men and women. When you stop getting your hair done, putting on make up, acquiring a beer belly, buying clothes from this decade, your self esteem begins to wither (this has certainly not been a problem with Bella and Edward). KEEP YOUR APPEARANCE UP!!! Not for your significant other, but for YOU!!! When your appearance begins to slide and you begin to feel like a couch potato, you will feel unattractive and you will think that no one else will find you attractive either! This will definitely take a toll on any relationship!! The crazy thing about this is what is the first thing that many people do when a relationship ends? Two words…make over! They loose weight, go to the gym, get their hair done, buy new clothes, they try and make themselves feel better about their appearance, as they should. But you should always do this, regardless of your relationship status, it is very important! It is important to your self-confidence and your self-esteem. It is sooooo important to feel good about yourself as much as possible, that is attractive!

2) Loosing yourself in your relationship, not a good idea! (This is definitely a mistake that Bella and Edward make, however people tend to overlook this for some reason. Probably because as vampires you are in limited company, soooo this should not apply to the two of them). Many women tend to do this as opposed to men. You become a wife, girlfriend, mother, homemaker, or whatever and suddenly your world tends to revolve around your man. When will they be home, what are they doing, you wait for them and make sure that you are home when they get there. You stop doing the things that you enjoy doing, stop going out with friends, stop hobbies, etc. Now men on the other hand, usually tend to keep on doing the things that they enjoy. Like going out with friends for beers, hunting, fishing or watching sports, they do not stop doing these things to make sure that they hang out with you all of the time, nor should they. Now don't get me wrong, they should not be doing these things all of the time either, there does need to be a balance. If you loose yourself in your relationship two things will happen, your relationship will become very draining first off, and secondly, would you love for your man to be at home waiting for you every single day? Would you enjoy knowing that he was constantly wondering about what you were doing and that his life revolved completely around you? That is too much pressure for anyone and it is not very attractive to be co-dependant. Now you may think that you are just being a good wife or mother, however, you cannot loose yourself completely to these titles or you loose something more precious…yourself as a person!

3) Nit picking at every little thing. Now men and women are both equally guilty of this and there is usually one in every relationship. (Bella and Edward have not made it this far, as that would not make for a very good movie). This is when you become the mother or father of your significant other, ick! The funny thing is no one ever seems to notice that they do this. Pick up your shoes, shut the door, you shouldn’t eat that, didn’t you do that already, why are you going there, why did you do that? OMG! Really I hear people do this ALL OF THE TIME! Pay more attention to what I like to call the "parent complex" because I promise you this will put a damper on your relationship and most certainly your sex life. Some things you just have to let go, you do not need to give your opinion on every little thing. Especially if it is to tell your partner what a stupid idea something is. For one week pay attention to this behavior and see if you would be nit picking in the same way if you were trying to date the same person. I can guarantee that you wouldn’t. Even if they bug you and you have been together for a long time, people deserve to be treated with respect and nit picking is not respectful.

4) Holding your partner responsible for your happiness. Now this is a tricky one, but it is definitely an important one. How would you like it if your partner’s happiness solely depended on you? If you do feel this way, then you definitely need to reevaluate your relationship because you will never win this battle, ever! If you are feeling unsatisfied or unhappy in life, be careful that you do not automatically blame your partner because this is very common. Your partner feels like a safe place to release stress, so people do it all of the time. You come home after having a bad day and yell, or you are just cranky and you feel like you have a right to feel this way, and you do. Just do not take it out on your partner, because that is not fair. People need to take more responsibility for their own happiness, because it is a choice. You are responsible for your own happiness, period!

5) Holding on to the past! Many, many times couples have fought through some very turbulent times in their relationship and have stayed together. This is actually more common then you might realize. A lot of the time you learn from those events, you can grow closer and have a very successful relationship. However, some of the time you might think that you can move forward after a rough patch and things from the past continue to creep to the surface, and as a result, you are miserable! If you have weathered a storm and have choosen to move forward in your relationship and rebuild, it is important to get everything off of your chest, then wipe the slate clean and start over. Imagine demolishing a house that has been through a hurricane, clearing the debris from the land, and then rebuilding it from the foundation up. It is now a brand new house. It might help if you think of your relationship in the same manner and start over, rebuilding as new, from the foundation up. If you cannot wipe the slate clean, however, and the past is always an issue, then your chances are not good at staying together. You can fight the same fight over and over again, it simply will not change the past, but it will certainly define your future.

Make your current relationship your obsession, the longevity of it, not the newness of it. Respect your partner and respect yourself, hold yourself in a high regard, it is the best way to tend to your relationship. Do not put yourself consistently on the back burner to kids, the house or your partner. Not having enough time is not an excuse, because if you do not tend to your relationship, it will become someone else’s obsession.

Do You Care What Other People Think Of You?

2011-02-22T12:14:00.001-10:00

If you do then it may be causing you more trouble then you realize! Really I mean this from the bottom of my heart! Way too much self-esteem and happiness is determined by what people think of you or of others. It all seems to be tied together. Would you like everyone to like you? Most people say, “Yeah!” Well good luck with that because let's face it, no matter how likable you are, getting everyone to like you is next to impossible. You never want this to be a determining factor of how that you feel about yourself. Why? They may like you today, you may tick them off tomorrow and many times you don’t even know what you did, but hormones or hunger could certainly be involved. Because people change their minds like they change their underwear and here is what I mean.

Have you ever really thought about how people form their opinions? You need to look at it this way:

1) People tend to form strong opinions but on their mood at the time. If they are happy their opinion is more positive. If they are unhappy their opinion is more on the negative side.

Just think about it. You will almost never hear someone who is in a great mood talk negatively about other people. However, if someone is in a bad mood, look out!!! They could find something wrong with Mother Teresa if they wanted to. They will lash out at anybody or anything without being provoked and many times they will!

2) People’s mood is usually depicted from the way their day went and there are way too many factors that determine someone’s day. For instance perception, eating, weather, stress, hormones, money, these all have an impact on your day.

This is pretty self explanatory, just look at your day today. What factor’s have had an impact on the mood that you are in right now?

3) Now do you really want how someone else’s day went spill over into your world? Or have ANY kind of impact on your life? “Um….I don’t know about you, but for me that would be a big fat NO!”

People are way to wishy washy with their opinions about other people and many times the people who feel the need to make it known what they think about you in the first place, are usually people who are not exactly in a position to be throwing stones.

We all have faults and flaws, that is just life! No one is superior and no one is immune to making bad choices. But that is how you learn and grow, that is what life is about.

So the next time that you hear what someone says about you, don’t take it so personally. Change your view and instead of taking it to heart and letting it spill into your world, it should give you a little bit of insight into their world and you can think to yourself, “Well I know how your day is going!”

Law Of Attraction - Simplified!

2011-02-19T18:06:00.003-10:00

People are using the law of attraction all of the time through out the day and do not even realize it. They think that it needs to be such a concentrated effort, yet everyone does it everyday just like we eat, breathe and walk. Your mind and body are involved with the "Law of Attraction" on an every day basis, without being told.

This is how people think that it needs to be done. You must find a comfortable place, keep the kids quite and have some alone time creating your future. You sit in the room struggling to form a picture in your mind, get frustrated, try a few more times, mind starts wondering to the laundry and what you are making for dinner. Wow - that was a chore! Try it again later in the week. More laundry and grocery shopping, this is a waste of time, forget about it, and go back to real life.

What you need to pay attention to is what are you thinking about while you are driving in the car, waiting for a doctor appointment, lying in bed trying to fall asleep. When you were a kid you would think about the new bike you wanted, where you would like to live when you grow up. Daydreaming about fun things, because you did not have any responsibilities that would side track your mind. Find the inner child in you - when you are driving to work or to pick up the kids, use this time more wisely. Do not spend this "zone out" time worrying about bills, or the car, or how bad you do not want to go to the grocery store. Then get frustrated when you get an unexpected bill because the car gets a flat tire, and the grocery clerk was rude!

Here is a simplified plan:

1) Realize that you have a lot of "zone out" time through out the day. Driving is a huge one, falling asleep, waiting for people or appointments.

2) Use this "zone out" time and replace it with "daydreaming". This has a nice feel to it when ever anyone thinks about daydreaming it is a fun thing.

3) Daydreaming should consist of how you would love your life to be and what it would feel like to be living that life. Like being at a job you love, living in a different area of the city or country, getting a new car, going on a vacation. It can be anything that makes you feel GOOD!

4) The key to great daydreaming is we allow ourselves to get lost in the feeling of being at a certain place in our life, or the excitement of purchasing something we only "dream" about. This feeling is a big trigger for the "Law of Attraction", in the same way that panic is because we consistently feel like we do not make enough money to cover the bills. I do not know about you but I am willing to gamble on the trip, simple because if that happens - I know that I had enough money to cover the bills!

5) If you do have worries come into your mind at this time, replace the worry with a scenario in your head of how you want it to be resolved. Only solutions are allowed in your "zone out" time.

6) Also very important, recognize and acknowledge what you have created in the past and in the future. If you need new tires and immediately catch yourself worrying that it is going to be way more than you can afford, shift your focus to daydreaming that you get to the tire store and there is a sale on affordable tires.

Remember this is daydream time, so do not question if this is going to work, just lose yourself stress relief and the great feeling of the daydreaming itself. If the next thing you know you are at the store staring at the affordable tires - take a moment to acknowledge what a good job you did. This gives you more and more control over the "Law of Attraction" in your life each time you just take a small moment to be proud of how you solved a problem.

People spend way too much precious daydreaming time wasted on everyday issues that get handled whether you think about it while driving or not. Let's face it dinner will still get made, laundry will still get done, and the car will still get fixed. So, if you replace this time with daydreaming, you will be a much happier person, you will notice that your mood will be lighter and you will begin to attract more positive things into your life. Moods are contagious, so your family and co-workers will thank you for this. Life will feel easier, because I am sure that in your daydreaming time life is more enjoyable, every day is not such a chore. Also, problems that do arise will be solved much quicker and will not feel as hard to conquer.

Most people have at least 5 times through out the day that they have wasted daydreaming time. We can learn something from all of those smiling kids that want to know, "Why can't I go to space? They have the space shuttle don't they?" If you think about it, someone has to go to space, purchase the vacation, or buy a new car, why not you? What do you have to lose! I have always loved the saying, "If I am going to be thinking anyway, I might as well think big!"

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It’s Valentines Day….So What!

2011-02-13T11:50:00.000-10:00

Ahhhhh Valentines Day! The day that everyone is supposed to express their everlasting love to each other and make the other one feel special. You are supposed to get dressed up, go out to dinner and have a romantic night. In some instances there are gifts involved, and many times flowers or chocolates. Has is really come to this? Do we really need to regulate a day to make sure that this gets done at least once a year? ONE DAY out of three hundred and sixty five days a year????

I for one believe that it should just be a rule in general if you are going to be in any long term or lasting relationship. You should be expressing your love and gratitude to one another, you should have many romantic nights and going out to dinner and enjoying each other’s company should definitely be a regular occurrence. (You can also have dinner at home which can also romantic, as long as you don’t have to cook….which is nearly impossible and that is why I suggest having dinner out).

For many, many years now my husband and I do the traditional Valentines Day thing. He usually buys me flowers; we get dressed up and go out to dinner at a nice restaurant. Then sometimes we will go to a movie, (because I love going to movies) and then we come home. A few years ago, I thought, Valentines Day doesn’t feel the same as it used to when we were first married. Then I realized, it is because we do this often! We hold hands all of the time, we have romantic dinners and go to movies. We often express our love and gratitude to each other. In fact, I think we stand out like a freak of nature because people often mention to us that they can’t believe that we have been married for so long, and even weirder….that we still like each other. We are good friends; we enjoy each others company and we laugh a lot.

Now many of you have kids, laundry, dishes, bills and work (we do too). These things do take up the majority of your time….and cash. But, I am not suggesting that you do any or all of these things everyday, because let’s face it, that is not going to happen. Also, it is impossible to “like” someone that you live with every single day of your life! However, most people who have been in a relationship for a while could probably up their romance meter a bit.

I feel that everyone needs to spread “Valentines Day” around a bit. Have more fun and make a regular day special every now and again. Laugh more and remember why you “like” your partner. Valentines Day should be sprinkled everywhere in your relationship. It most definitely shouldn’t be confined to just ONE day.

Do you REALLY know who your significant other is???

2011-02-11T08:22:00.003-10:00

“Um…Ya!” Most people are thinking, and a few others are probably thinking, “Well…I thought so until now. Thanks!” Now don’t start going through pants pockets and checking cell phone records, I don’t exactly mean this the way it sounds. Here is what I mean.

I deal A LOT with relationships and relationship questions in my line of work. It is one of the top three most popular subjects. Yet I am amazed most of the time of a reoccurring problem. People fighting about the same thing over and over and OVER again!!! Usually it stems from the same problem. You would like to think that your significant other is this person that you have conjured up in your head so you get really ticked off when they act differently.

Let me give you an example. I know someone that has a boyfriend who is a slime ball when it comes to women. He stares at them constantly whether she is in his presence or not. This has been going on from the day that they met, until now, years later. He has not, and will not, ever change. As this relationship has progressed somehow in her head she has started to believe that he is different then who he really is. She sees him for who she wants him to be. So when they fight what do you think their #1 fight is about? Staring at other women. Hmmmm……imagine that!

Now I have a very different take on this. He did not hide this in the beginning and he does not hide it now. He is the same slime ball now as he was when they first met. So what has changed? On his part, nothing, on her part, her perception. She wants him to be different, so that is how she views him in her head. So she continues to argue her point on why he should not do this particular thing. On the flip side, if she just understood and accepted that this is a part of his personality and make her decision to be with him, or not be with him, accordingly, there would be a lot less fighting. In other words, if you are choosing to stay with someone despite their flaws, stop making a big deal out of it every single time that this particular flaw comes out!! If it is too overwhelming and you can’t take it, then leave! You will most likely, contrary to popular belief, find someone else to be in a relationship with and not grow old alone. If you choose to stay in your relationship (key word here is CHOOSE), then get over it! Find a way to make peace with it. See your partner for who they really are and stay or don’t stay based on that image. Do not make up an image in your head of who you would like them to be then punish them when they don’t measure up, that is just silly! It makes no sense whatsoever! More often then your partner has some very good qualities that are being greatly overshadowed by the bad. For instance that same boyfriend has never had an affair, he is a good provider, a good father, etc. But she cannot seem to make peace with this particular issue and it is causing their relationship to be in great turmoil most of the time. Ahhhh….just what every person hopes for!

Now I am definitely not saying that he is in the right (I would have left a loooooong time ago). But this obviously wasn’t a complete “deal breaker” for her, so she has stuck around. Now everyone’s situation is different and what I would like you to understand is the power that you hold over the “peace level” in your relationship.

The major point here is you have a choice, a choice to stay in a relationship or a choice not to. Regardless of if your significant other is a complete and total jerk in all aspects, mostly good, or mostly bad, if you are choosing to stay make it as stress free on yourself as possible. In fact try and make it down right enjoyable! The most amazing feeling in the world is to be completely and totally loved for who you are flaws and all! I know that you wish this for yourself, why would anyone (including your partner) want anything different?

So take a minute, and really SEE your significant other for who they are. If you decide to stay, which most of you will, replace your old image with this new one. Then make your peace with it….

Does The Universe Really Work In Mysterious Ways?

2011-02-09T14:02:00.003-10:00

Does the Universe really work in mysterious ways or is it just mysterious to think that we have a lot more control over the outcome of our lives then we have been taught to believe? Is it mysterious to see that things are really supposed to be synchronistic and that things are really supposed to fall into place just right, that you are supposed to be at the right place at the right time. This is how you roll when you are working with the Universe. When you are more in touch with your intuition, when you begin to trust and believe that life is supposed to be mostly fun and good, it seems mysterious! Wow! That is almost too good to be true! Why is that???

The world is full of negativity you are surrounded by it every single day. It is on the news, you are surrounded by it at work, your friends and family talk about how crappy everything is. The economy is bad, money is tight, relationships are not lasting, and stress is high!

Where are all of the positive people? Well, I have noticed that there seems to be 2 distinct groups of people. They are Group 1) Things Suck and Group 2) Life Is Good. The thing is that Group 1 tends to out number Group 2 by like 10 to 1. So you run into a lot more of these people. Now Group 2 is around but they tend to keep a low profile. They are your friends/family/coworkers that are doing well, getting great opportunities, but you can’t figure out how, since your lives are basically similar to one another and none of this is good stuff is happening to you. They secretly love life! They believe that live is supposed to be mostly good and that things will always work themselves out one-way or another. They believe that anything is possible and they are filled with hope.

Those people are naïve; they have their head buried in the sand! If that is what you are thinking, hmmmm….Group 1 you are! The reason that they keep a low profile is to keep their mysterious ways flowing in a positive direction. You see when you expose yourself in anyway to people in Group 1 it can bring your spirits down, you end up having to defend yourself or fight for the positive and lets face it, you can not change Group 1 and their mindset, plus it is just plain exhausting. Their thinking is also very contagious and people in Group 2 know this, so they do not to expose themselves so as not to be infected by other peoples negative thinking! People in Group 1 are also quite passionate about their Group and they will spend many precious hours defending it!! So people in Group 2 just go about their business enjoying everyday to the best of their ability, planning and plotting their amazing future, secretly.

People in Group 1 make a lot more noise; they gather up their numbers and have big discussions on how miserable everything is! They are easy to spot and they are pretty much everywhere. With people in Group 2 it is more of a “knowing”, you can sense when other like-minded people are around. Their energy is different and they just seem….happier!

Now the wonderful thing is that you can switch Groups at anytime and it is free to do so, there is no initiation and no penalties. So the next time that you find yourself smiling because the Universe touched your life in a mysterious way, keep an open mind, you may want to explore the possibility of switching over to Group 2.

The grass is greener and things are lighter. You will run into problems just like everyone else, but your trust will continue to grow each time that something works out, because it usually will. When that happens you spend your days worrying less and taking full advantage of having a lot more fun, because you begin to truly believe Group 2’s motto, “Life is Good!”